Thoughts I’ve been sitting with...
Death shaped my summer i.e. losing a family member and a close friend unexpectedly.

I still showed up with care, even without being on an “official” volunteer list.

Recently, I was quietly removed from a WhatsApp group chat I’d been contributing to.

No heads-up. No conversation. Just gone.

It stung. Not because I need titles—
but because I believe in #RelationalTech, in showing up with softness, and in honouring grief as part of leadership.

So I’m choosing to go where I’m wanted,
not where I’m merely tolerated.

Where grief isn’t punished.
Where care is reciprocal.
Where soft leadership is seen as strength.

If you’re in Metro Vancouver building spaces like that (or want to), let’s connect 🐾

I’m here for federated futures and the people who make tech feel like a hug.

Thanks for your inclusiveness and #HumanKindness.

#TechForCare #SoftLeadership #GriefInformed #LGBT

As part of my #FediCollective series, I’m planning board and card game events to bring people together IRL now until Spring 2026. Think: soft vibes, cozy tables, and community-led joy.

Let’s connect if you vibe with haunted games, grief-informed joy, or tech that feels like a hug.

@Crissy can I bring this to #Edmonton? Maybe in January?

@KarenKeiller hi Karen, of course, by all means!

My vision for FediCollective started in Vancouver (and my dream is each city in Canada, there is someone who can lead humankind Third Spaces in their locales).

Edmonton has a good population of interested folx, eh? :) Thanks!