Notice how people sit when they’re relaxed. That’s their baseline.

Watch for groups of signals, not just one thing. If someone crosses their arms, leans back, and avoids eye contact, they might disagree with you.

See if their words match their body language. If someone says “I’m on board” while leaning away and folding their arms, something’s off.

If you spot a mismatch, just pause. Say something like, “I feel some hesitation. What’s on your mind?” (1/3)

Remember, a single gesture doesn’t mean much. Look for changes from their normal behavior. And always consider the situation.

Crossed arms might mean someone is defensive, or it could just mean they’re thinking. Don’t assume.

You can build trust by subtly matching the other person’s positive and open posture. It makes people more comfortable. (2/3)