My uncle (b. 1927) had polio as a child. He lost the use of one leg and as a result became a surly asshole who hated, and was hated by, everyone. Polio is no joke. Nobody remembers it now. I can’t believe it’s about to come back because of a goddam fuckin Kennedy. https://kolektiva.social/@iBlame/115161354134563132
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@iBlame if you will allow it--I'd like to suggest that becoming disabled won't make you a surly asshole. That may have been his response but it isn't everybody's.
@Tarheel Didn’t mean to suggest that, but dang, I can see how it came off that way. Was unthinkingly parroting family lore, which has it that he was an all-around delightful dude and talented athlete before the illness.

@iBlame and he might well have been. But you respond to illness and disability with an intelligence, character, and personality in a social context. If the general attitude is that your life is ruined and you're better off dead etc.... some people can't get past that. Can't accept, adapt, reorient, find a different life path.

And if you're told your body is gross now and you're a burden and nobody will ever want you, you can react by rejecting everybody else first.

It's enough to make a person bitter. But it isn't the polio itself or the disfiguring accident or whatever and when families and communities buy the ableism and unthinkingly put 2 and 2 together and get 5, it's stigmatizing. You eventually wind up with this trope of the bitter, evil criminal in the Bond movie or the self-sacrificing, romantically suicidal one in that unspeakable eugenicist novel and the rest of us get stuck battling the stereotypes.

Some of us will lose that fight.

The inspirational President is also a problem but that's another rant for another day 😆

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@Tarheel You are, as usual, absolutely right. Thanks for schoolin’ me. It never occurred to me to examine the whole Uncle Wilfred narrative beyond what I was told as a child. Dawns on me now that the family was trying to scapegoat disability so they could sort of disown the fact that they had spawned such an epic dickhead.