Attached: 1 image Today I was reminded that old online chats offered context awareness for the people online: you knew you won't be a bother to a friend who has a smiley flower as a status; and you knew you might not be getting a quick reply from someone who's Away. Today I don't even know if my friends are online or not. The messenger apps make the assumption that everyone is online, and if not, they will receive a push notification, and will reply to you as soon as possible. But this assumption is barely true. I bet it makes lives harder, especially for ND people (Edited for a pixel-perfect screenshot)
Holy shit. Even fucking Forbes acknowledges misogynoir now?? (Coined by Moya Bailey)
https://www.forbes.com/sites/janicegassam/2020/09/22/misogynoir-the-unique-discrimination-that-black-women-face/
Aaaaahhhhh, it was Intersectionality that was coined by scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw [how do I indicate paraphrasing again?].
"A focus on misogynoir – the anti-Black forms of misogyny that Black women experience
Updated Friday, 30 September 2022" by Joseph Kwarteng.
"Joseph is a PhD Researcher at the Knowledge Media Institute (KMi) of The Open University and a member of the Social Data Science group.
His research project is aimed at investigating Intersectionality in Hate Speech Detection with a focus on
"Misogynoir" - a unique form of misogyny experienced by Black women with the intersection of sexism and racism."
"Breaking the Silence: Understanding Misogynoir and Ostracism in Everyday Life
March 13, 2025"
(by admin, contact [email protected] )
Why This Matters For those of us who have lived through racism in the UK, there are experiences that often go unspoken—moments that leave lasting wounds. Misogynoir and ostracism are two deeply embedded forms of discrimination that many ethically diverse people, particularly Black women, experience daily. Yet, these words aren’t widely understood. This blog aims […]
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist!
1. Looking at Learning and Development in a Different Way https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/looking-at-learning-and-development-in-a-different-way.html and
2. Courageous Conversations https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/courageous-conversations-game.html and
3. Everday EDI Good Practice for Freelance Artists https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/everyday-edi-good-practice-for-freelance-artists.html and
4. Reasonable Adjustments RAs Pocket Book https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/reasonable-adjustments-pocket-book.html and
5. Protected Characteristics Pocket Book https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/protected-characteristic-pocket-books.html and
6. Mental Health First Aid Course https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/mental-health-first-aid-course.html and
7. Equality Impact Assessment Training https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/equality-impact-assessment-training-course.htm
Obv more, but these are already kinda expensive. Shortlist time. If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 2 / continued)
8. Definitions and Terminology Pocket Book https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/definitions-and-terminology-pocket-book.html
9. Gender Diversity Booklet https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/gender-diversity-booklet.html
10. Disability in Goods, Services, and Facilities https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/disability-in-goods-services-and-facilities-booklet.html
11. Unconscious Bias in Recruitment and Selection [Yes, I know being aware of biases does NOT erase them. Avowed racists can be aware of their biases, and avowed active anti-racists can also still struggle to counteract their upbringings. Still, it's a starting point.] https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/unconscious-bias-in-recruitment-and-selection.html
12. Unconscious Bias Case Studies [Yeah, this is a good next step: actually try to unpick barriers to common usage.] https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/unconscious-bias-case-studies.html
13. Equality, Diversity and Inclusion Pocketbook for Airports https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/edi-pocketbook-for-airports.html
14. FE College - Managers, teachers and support staff Lesson Plan https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/edi-for-fe-colleges.html
If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 3 / more continued)
15. Equality Act Good Practice Guide https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/equality-act-good-practice-guide.html
16. Creating Inclusive and Respectful Working Environments https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/creating-inclusive-and-respectful-working-environments-pocket-book.html
17. Recruitment and Selection: Guide for reaching and retaining diverse talent https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/recruitment-and-selection-guide-for-reaching-diverse-talent.html
18. Recruitment, Selection, and Inclusive Practices Pocketbook for Schools https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/recruitment-selection-and-inclusive-practices-pocketbook-for-schools.html
If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 4 / beyond continued)
19. Neuro-Inclusive Workplace - Pocketbook;
Highway Code to Equality in Schools - Pocketbook;
Managing and Avoiding Unconscious Biases in the Workplace - Handbook;
Fostering Good Relations - Pocketbook;
Guide to being an Active Anti-Racism Bystander in the Workplace;
Foster Carers Race Awareness Pocketbook; Anti-Racist Strategies for the Workplace;
Cultural Competency Guidance and Activity Pack;
Navigating Racism in Schools Pocketbook;
Understanding and Addressing Microaggressions in University Settings Pocketbook;
Embracing Cultural Competence in Healthcare;
Neurodiversity in the Workplace Pocketbook;
Communicating for Racial Justice Pocketbook;
Toolkit for addressing educational disadvantage for ethnically diverse children and young people in UK schools;
Navigating the Diversity Landscape Pocketbook;
Community-Led Housing in Ethnically Diverse Communities Toolkit;
Anger Management in the Workplace Pocketbook;
EDI Good Practice for Volunteers;
Addressing Bullying Allegations;
Board of Trustees Good Practice Guidance Pocketbook;
Cultural Competence in Public Services;
Understanding Microaggressions Pocketbook;
Creating Inclusive and Safe EDI Sessions;
White Privilege, Microaggressions and Intersectionality Pocket Book;
Reciprocal Mentoring Pocketbook;
Courageous Conversations on Anti-Racism in Schools;
Support document for Education Providers;
Preparing Apprenticeships for the Workplace;
Sexual Harassment Pocketbook;
The EDI Role in Shaping Organisational Culture, Performance, and Leadership;
Pocketbook for EDI Leads, Trainers, and Management;
EDI Bingo activities;
EDI Policies Guidance;
Healthy Relationships Pocketbook;
Community Impact Assessment Plain English;
Understanding Neurodiversity in Ethnically Diverse Communities Easy Read
If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 5 / further beyond continued)
20. Let's Talk about Race [baby!] resources https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/lets-talk-about-racism.html
21. Allyship: Supporting Black colleagues in the workplace https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/allyship-supporting-black-colleagues-in-the-workplace.html
22. Caring for Ethnically Diverse Children in Foster Care https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/caring-for-ethnically-diverse-children-in-foster-care.html
23. Managing and Avoiding Microaggressions in the Workplace https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/managing-and-avoiding-microaggressions-workplace.html
24. Practical Tools for the Delivery of Equality and Diversity https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/practical-tools-for-the-delivery-of-equality-and-diversity.html
25. Self-Assessment Toolkit https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/edi-self-assessment-toolkit.html
If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
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Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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26. Practical Tools for the Delivery of Equality and Diversity https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/practical-tools-for-the-delivery-of-equality-and-diversity.html
27. Sports and Community Clubs Induction Pack https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/sports-and-community-clubs-induction-pack.html
28. Building Equality into the Curriculum https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/building-equality-into-the-curriculum.html
29. Equality and Diversity Toolkit for Local Authorities https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/equality-and-diversity-toolkit-for-local-authorities.html
30. Managing Diversity and Inclusion in the NHS https://equalityanddiversity.co.uk/shop/managing-diversity-and-inclusion-in-the-nhs-p35.html
If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.
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Maybe alongside TERF Island, I suggest Jerk Island.
TURD Island (Tough Under Regressive Demands) is kind of a self-own, but also not? The whole 'coal / carbon into diamonds' thing.
But yeah. Jerk Island matches the vibe, cadence, rhyme, and reason of TERF Island.
Easier to do without hurting precious cis fee-fees for describing them as neutrally as possible to highlight a challenge they obviously do not face.
We call out the 'jerk' behaviour rather than the TERF-ness...
even though putting Trans-Exclusionary in your own group name is KIND OF a dead giveaway.
PERHAPS you may not like that group of people.
I guess JERK could be itemised into Just Egregious Ruthless Keratin.
Kinda difficult when few English words start with K.
Like, you can work 'Kremlin' in there, but we *already* have huge problems with most people treating other groups of people as a monolith.
(To be super clear:
Russia itself is bad, while Russians themselves are individual people. They choose their actions under completely different circumstances from what you or I do, unless you're Russian, in which case: hello.)
Edit: KAREN. TERFs are JERKs: Joint Egregious Rorschach Karens.
I mainly thought about substituting TERF with Jerk because writing songs in the VoiSona app prompts you to think about similar sounds and meanings.
Also I know someone who got a sudden, irreversible ban from Facebook / 'meta' for literally no clear reason beyond liking (very few things at all) libraries and some disability organisations.
So the fucking billionaire classes are making their moves, uncaring of their implementation, allowing shitty choices in their name, and / or similarly negative factors I haven't considered yet.
Which boils down to "Great. Friends of Dorothy have to relearn code-switching," which BIPoC / BAME people, underpaid people, and immigrants have all been doing since forever.
I thought about substituting TERF with Jerk because writing songs in the VoiSona app prompts you to think about similar sounds and meanings. I know someone who got a sudden, irreversible ban from Facebook / 'meta' for no clear reason. They liked (barely any) libraries & disability organisations.
Self-maintenance: Drink water, find or make options, stretch slowly and don't neglect protein. https://bsky.app/profile/mxverda.bsky.social/post/3lsvrryluts2z
Social maintenance: Unionize / Unionise, join collective bargaining power, and don't kick anyone else while getting your needs met. https://bsky.app/profile/mxverda.bsky.social/post/3lsx3srkyjc2e
Soft maintenance: I want you to be happy and/or contented, gdi. Fuck you; support yourself since I can't, or else I fucking would, you cute bastards (and bitches and b'thems!) https://bsky.app/profile/mxverda.bsky.social/post/3lmajynqljc24
Fixed up a bit: Same sentiment, but a little tidier. Also better because I added a green heart, you cunts. 💚 Which emoji make you happy?! Use them more, or face the consequences. https://bsky.app/profile/mxverda.bsky.social/post/3lmlnq2tr522d
Baby queers, pibling queers, noobs, nerds, dudes, pervs, prudes, kinksters, aces / aros, etc (whether you call yourself queer or not, I include you if you want to be included) Please treat yourself. Whatever you can do sustainably to feel nourished by, I love you and I want you to feel loved gdi.
I never know who's a damn AI these days. OH MY GOD I GET IT.
*THAT'S* what The Visitors is about. 🤦
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-yJhszsXCas
whin t acual fuck? "400. That’s an error.
The server cannot process the request because it is malformed. It should not be retried. That’s all we know."
TFW jerks don't accept that trans people exist, but then treat them worse than either their baby-crotch astrological sign or
the third-gendering (fine if wanted by individuals) of non-binary people,
who they don't think exist either. (Paraphrasing)
TFW killer migraine you've thrown the book at so you just seek spiritual pain-letting at this point.
https://www.bethspatterson.com/p/buddhist-approach-working-pain-suffering-liberation
"Om Mani Padme Hum, perhaps the most renowned Buddhist mantra, is said to invoke the powerful benevolent attention and blessings of Chenrezig, the embodiment of compassion. Chanting this mantra with the intention of releasing pain can be soothing and might assist in easing discomfort.
Another meaningful mantra is Tayata Om Bekanze Bekanze Maha Bekanze Radza Samudgate Soha. It’s linked to the Medicine Buddha and it’s believed to be incredibly potent for healing. People often recite this mantra when they or someone they know is struggling with health issues.
Om Tare Tuttare Ture Soha, the mantra of Green Tara, a compassionate bodhisattva, helps cut through the intensity of physical and mental pain. This mantra’s rhythm and repetition can work as a form of sound therapy, possibly altering your perception of pain." https://www.takeyourchants.com/mantra-chanting/buddhist-mantra-for-pain-relief/
I have been pondering how to use my Buddhist practice to work with suffering when my chronic pain flares up. The Buddha’s teachings on The Four Noble Truths came immediately to mind. These teachings provide a roadmap for living a life free from suffering. Experiencing my pain directly, without judgments or resistance, has allowed me to use the Buddha’s roadmap on my journey from suffering to liberation.