1/ Watched more #openhouse with C again last night (series 3 episodes 1 and 2). It’s common that only one of the partners in the relationship really wants to be there - and the other is going along with it to people please, and out of fear of losing the other one.
I think the reasons and motivations for going into #polyamory / open relationships / group #sex are complex - there’s a lot more to it than for example a bloke just thinking that 2 girls at a time would be fun.
#channel4
2/ This inevitably led to another challenging conversation with C about our attitudes to group sex. She finds it really difficult to understand why I wouldn’t want another woman in bed with us. I explained again that it’s because I have an #anxiousattachment style and that I’d be terrified of her being more into the other woman than me - and that I’d ultimately lose her.
I also explained that her bringing it up again makes me think that she really wants and needs that sex life.
4/. Is it just anxious attachment me or am I just accurately perceptive?
I suppose I have trust issues with C because she lied about when her husband ditched her, when we first met. She told me they’d been separated for months when it had in fact been just days.
I’m also cognisant of the fact that she had an affair while engaged to a guy, albeit a long time ago.
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