RopetopusNot sure who needs to hear this, but “being an asshole” is not dominant behavior.
Dominance is confident control, and being an asshole shows you lack both confidence and control.
I want to be clear here: you can absolutely play a top role that involves consensually acting like an asshole to someone. That’s entirely valid. It’s just not an example of dominance
And if you act like an asshole outside of such a negotiated dynamic, then you’re just an asshole. And actually BEING an asshole is very much the opposite of being dominant.