but bc they're single, poor, young, scared, overwhelmed. These conditions are almost always temporary, but our society pressures them to choose a permanent solution for these temporary issues. Not bc it's best for baby-to-be, but bc millions of adults covet newborns & as a result they're worth big $$$ to the adoption industry.

2. Desperately wanting children doesn't automatically make someone a good parent—or even a decent person. +

3. Adoption promises a 'better life,' but can only actually deliver a different life. Not all adoptees end up in safe, loving homes. Too many of us grow up w/ parental neglect, abuse, starvation, torture. Some of us are returned--or worse, rehomed. Some of us are molested. Some of us are murdered.

4. Not all motivations to adopt are positive. Or even healthy. Plenty are unhealthy af, in fact.

5. Ppl who aren't adopted don't know what it's like to be adopted. I don't care +

how many adoptees they know. I have 4 brothers, but I still don't know what it's like to be male. Using adoptees you THINK you know as tools to shame & silence adoptees challenging the dominant narrative is gross. It's shtty & disingenuous. STOP IT. If something an adoptee has said shocks or angers you, think about why. Listen. You might learn something. If you don't want to learn anything, STFU & keep moving. Do not argue w/ ppl about their own lived experience.

6. Every #adoption begins +