Zen BenMay 31, 2024
My 3YearOld niece has a problem: she doesn't #DrinkWater throughout the day. She gets so immersed in what she's up to - all the time - that even one of the most #BasicNeeds is forgotten! Speaking of the power of absorption! So, she needs to be nudged to #StayHydrated.
What's a need that you keep forgetting?
When I work with people, I often use one of these three angles to check in with their needs:
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1) checking #MaslowHierarchy
2) Acronym #HALT
3) Engage with an experience

Let's look at each en detail:

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1) look at #MaslowHierarchy and check which needs are met, which ones aren't: At times, we mistake a higher-level need with a lower-level one (my quest for meaning was partially an absence of a felt sense of safety)
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2) #HALT: are you Hungry (and/or thirsty), Angry, Lonely, Tired? This can be a wonderful check before acting on a basic need that hasn't been met. Maybe having a glass of water is gonna make your day better?
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3) Engage with an experience: find a moment of stillness and from this place, turn towards the strongest emotional experience you have right now. Contact it - what does it feel like? Where do you feel it? Then ask it: is there anything you need from me? See what comes up.
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It's quite common that most of us learnt patterns over time that negate some of our needs. When I worked as a #ManagementConsultant, most of my needs were willfully not met: sleep, restroom breaks (I once sat 5h in meeting w/o using the restroom despite my bladder BURSTING).
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That same #consciousness that can disconnect us from our needs & experience, can also assist us in reconnecting with it. Using some of the techniques mentioned can serve as a steppingstone.

What's a need you might have been neglecting for too long? How can you fulfill it?