The #gracefulness with which we perform an action is kind of like the body language and tone we use when speaking: it can communicate more, and more reliably, than the words (or the acts) themselves.
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/iofy4cWC9AWzZDtxc/notes-on-gracefulness
We reveal what is disgraceful about our characters either by behaving wholeheartedly disgracefully, which is itself ugly, or by forcing ourselves into a pantomime of grace, in which case the tension between the outer appearance and the moral sensibility is likely to surface through a lack of #gracefulness. For example: It can be hard to avoiding telegraphing it when you’re doing someone a good deed begrudgingly.
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/iofy4cWC9AWzZDtxc/notes-on-gracefulness
David Gross