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Tobias Horvath Jul 30, 2023

Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋

I love watching other people find themselves in ways I find entirely unrelatable. Trans dudes loving their masculinity. Non-binary people confusing the crap out of me. Altersex folks and their body mods. Gay dudes being into other dudes. I don't get any of it, it's not for me, but it's beautiful. 🥰

I also find it profoundly healing. I thought my own needs were weird and therefore disallowed for so many years. Seeing other people fill their needs in ways I don't understand makes me feel like it's okay to fill my needs, even if other people like my family don't understand. Others understanding isn't the point. Living as whole, free people is. 💜

Nicola Elle 🏳️‍⚧️Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping And suddenly I am reminded of some other wisdom, so beautiful I can express it in four letters.

IDIC.

Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations.

Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️Jul 30, 2023

@NicolaElle Wow, I had not thought of IDIC in this context, but ... yeah. 🖖

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It's Just Jenn 🏳️‍⚧️Jul 30, 2023

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Wow. IDIC. That really does sum up so much of what Faithy is talking about and I've been thinking about - things I don't understand that are beautiful. 🖖

Trans men fall under that for me. We pass each other like ships in the night, and it's an absolutely wondrous thing to witness.

Evelyn Aug 2, 2023

@NicolaElle @faithisleaping love this!

Danielle Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping it is wonderful amazing, and makes me so very happy to see every time

since somehow I got in a position where so many people come to me asking for advice for taking their first steps, it makes me so very happy that they trust enough to reach out, and proud I can help them take their first steps

Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️Jul 30, 2023

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I don't get any of it, it's not for me, but it's beautiful. 🥰

Right? Like every time I see a anyone kiss a guy I think, "Why would you do that? Whatever, you do you ... " 😁

Rylie Stargazer 🏳️‍⚧️Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping this is beautiful

mkb Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping @rysiek Filmmaker Marlon Riggs talked about straight white boys telling him how much they loved his movie Tongues Untied.

He made a movie about his own experience of being gay and black. What was there for us straight white boys? Riggs’ conclusion, which resonated with me, is there is something universal about struggle and watching others overcome struggle is inherently satisfying.

I guess that’s a long way for me to say “Hell yes.”

Lisa Melton Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping This. 💯

forestine Jul 30, 2023

@faithisleaping Confusing the crap out of people is my goal, it made me smile to read that

Dimestore Diamond

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@faithisleaping This is wonderful indeed 💜

Ian Smith Jul 31, 2023

@faithisleaping Very healthy attitude and nicely expressed

PointlessSpike Jul 31, 2023

@faithisleaping Personally I don't understand why people would do gender at all, but I 100% support the right of those that wish to, to do so however they please.

PointlessSpike Jul 31, 2023

@faithisleaping (Btw this is how you know GCs just use it as an excuse for shitting on trans people, not one of them takes this approach)

Rob Landley Jul 31, 2023

@faithisleaping I saw an explanation the other day that the reason Japan has so many high school anime is they culturally love stories about _development_.

Here in the states our plot arcs are all about winning and defeating and achieving goals and so on... but in Japan they want to see people mature and grow and learn and so on.

Hence every isekai arc where somebody gains a new skill and gets really good at that skill and everybody else goes "wow, you're really good at that now".

Court Cantrell does not comply Jun 7, 2024

@faithisleaping I love your perspective. 😊

I especially appreciate your point about needs being meant. It makes me wonder if one of the underlying sources of hate is the erroneous subconscious belief that "I don't have the right to fulfill my own needs, so LGBTQ+ folks shouldn't get to fulfill theirs either."

Simplistic, I know. But still.....

Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋

@courtcan I think it's there for sure. There's a lot of people who think that life is a zero-sum game and that one person's thriving is somehow taking away from someone else's. There's also a notion that they've sacrificed to build this social system and that the queer folks who break the system aren't doing their part somehow.

A couple years ago, before my egg even cracked, I came to this realization with my relationship with my dad. He (or my mom) kept saying that it takes both people and that I need to do my part. Thing is... He had no idea how much he'd already asked of me. Every time he dragged me to a basketball game or turned on a football game on the TV and expected me to watch with him, the fact that I showed up at all took more effort than he ever put in. My history is a wasteland littered with half-built relational bridges where I've built my half and the other person just couldn't be bothered.

So when cis/hets expect us to sacrifice a little for the sake of a well-ordered society or some shit, they have no fucking clue what they're asking of us. Yeah, they probably have regrets and unmet needs and they should find healing and freedom, too. But to think that we should go without just because they think they did? Hell, no!

(Sorry if that went off in a bit of a different direction.)

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