George Takei 
🏳️🌈🖖🏽Clears throat, then says it loudly for those praying in the back of the room.
Diligence Jones@georgetakei This is similar to the 'confusion' folks have distinguishing between boundaries and rules (of control).
Boundaries govern the Self.
Rules control Others.
Author Sharon E. Cathcart ✅Heh. I had a former friend (the reason he's no longer a friend will become obvious) tell me once that "You are not allowed to talk about XYZ on your blog or with me. That's a boundary."
I said "No, that's a diktat. You don't get to establish boundaries for anyone but yourself."
@sharonecathcart
Precisely.
There have been convos lately about this distinction re: relationships (Jonah Hill), religion (Christo-Fascists).
This country is steeped in a cultural fantasy about control and anti-liberation - it's why our religious discourse is the way it is.
Folks start with wanting to control others and it's just bizarre.
(Also, I've had a few male friends of mine in the past try and tell me what I can/cannot write about - usually stuff that makes them very uncomfortable about intimacy and sex. I eventually had to tell them "Then don't read my blog.")
@DeliaChristina Yep. In this specific case, the fellow is a hard-core Libertarian who believes no one is entitled to things like health care unless they earn/deserve it. I had written about my belief in the importance of single-payer/universal healthcare ... and he decided it would be a good idea to take me to task for it.
Not so much.