Brianna WuJul 3, 2023
Women of Mastodon! How do you deal with men talking over you in a professional setting?
Show threadBrianna WuJul 3, 2023

2/ None of my go-tos are great. Interjecting, “can I please finish,” is the best I have. Raising your voice and repeating until they stop is aggressive and bitchy.

Letting them say whatever, totally ignoring, and starting over from the beginning also works but is super bitchy.

Show threadDeath by Lambda

@briannawu
Honestly, as AMAB, I think you have it reversed.

>> Interjecting, “can I please finish,” is the best I have.

This, we "find" bitchy - it is NOT, but it really grates :(

>> Raising your voice and repeating until they stop is aggressive and bitchy.

Is aggressive (and probably deserved). But is categorically NOT bitchy.

>> Letting them say whatever, totally ignoring, and starting over from the beginning also works but is super bitchy.

NOT #bitchy. Or #aggressive

Jul 3, 2023 at 10:00pmWeb
Show threadDeath by LambdaJul 3, 2023
@briannawu
I think women #standingUpForYourself is not bitchy and it's the patriarchy that makes us label it that
Show threadJai Half-Elven 🏹🍜🐉Jul 3, 2023

@xdydx Yeah! ✊ Not aggressive and not bitchy! Let's normalize this and stop judging when women do this. Let's cheer each other on!

@briannawu

Show threadChloe Tse Jul 3, 2023
@xdydx @briannawu "may I finish my thought here please" is also my go-to. When it comes to "bitchiness", if someone accuses me of that, I'd say "I said please, didn't I?" And I wear that bitchiness like a badge of honour. If standing up for myself makes me a bitch, then a proud bitch I am!
Show threadTheJenJul 3, 2023

@xdydx @briannawu

Yeah, why ask for permission from whomever it is behaving badly? Who are they to interrupt you...the person with the floor...?

Apologizing or asking for their permission does nothing but diminish YOU, not them.

They need to learn how to behave.

Show threadChloe Tse Jul 4, 2023
@JenWojcik @xdydx @briannawu usually I ask it as a rhetorical question in a heavily sarcastic tone with a snarl. One guy got so intimidated he told me on his last day that he had nightmares about me.
Show threadStygian LizardJul 4, 2023
@xdydx @briannawu that first one: man, I don't even ask. I'll just say "I'm speaking" and they usually quiet down. It could also be that I'm tiny and quiet and they don't know what to make of me.