Abandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
You can always tell when prolonged exposure to social media has critically damaged a portion of someone's soul by the fact that when they make any statement online there is also an addendum addressing what they know the inevitable misreading or crappy response to that statement will be
Show threadAbandoned America

"I really like waffles. But if you don't that's fine! And also pancakes are good too - l, look, just JFC let me enjoy waffles, okay, what is morally wrong with that - wait, you know what, don't even tell me, I'm so sorry I asked, please forget I said anything and that I even exist. I'm so sorry. I don't even know why but I'm sorry. Fuck waffles. Or not. I don't even know any more."

- Anyone who gets a moderate amount of interaction with their posts online

May 8, 2023 at 5:10amMastodon for Android
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
As my own little addendum because I have been critically damaged by social media too: no, this is not a complaint against "cancel culture" or anyone being held accountable for legitimately crappy things they might say. Read it literally. It is about the fear that even saying you like waffles is going to set someone off.
Show thread[email protected]  May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica I feel this in my waffle bones
Show threadEscarpmentMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica I have sometimes phrased this as, "Opinions are dangerous things." Even the most "innocuous" opinion can, as you say, set someone off. Being an opinion writer, as some are for a career, carries substantial personal risk. Not sure I have found a mitigation for this danger, other than to bear it in mind and choose carefully which opinions I state and when. Remaining silent isn't an option either, as some unpopular opinions need to be stated.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@escarpment yep. But it's like you have to play 4D chess beforehand to see all the possible moves that someone could misinterpret your statement with and you always miss at least one
Show threadmeMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica @escarpment I also regret not saving that epic Twitter thread back in the day with “random innocent tweet X” as a start and replying with almost (!) every possible hot take, snark, mansplained or bad faith argument but … as a template. Like a blueprint for every discussion exploring all the ways it could go sideways.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@me @escarpment wow, I missed that. I probably would have got some therapeutic value from it
Show threadJasonMay 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica I was going to do a smart ass response but after reading all 3 messages, I restrained myself.

Don't want to further injure some who I 1) like their posts, 2) like their photography, and 3) subscribe to their podcast.

But it was hard not to do, also for the 3 reasons give above. 😜

But at least Mastodon is a generally more positive space than TheSiteThatShallNotBeNamed. 🙂

Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Jason844 oh, Mastodon is much better but the tide will turn. And thank you. Smartass responses are funny and most of the time I get them but sometimes I do not and wonder if the person has a real issue or not 😄😕
Show threadJasonMay 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica Don't agree. I think that Mastodon will stay a more positive thing due to how it is set up. Run into an troll/idiot, don't engage, just block them.

By the way, I've got several real issues! Namely, I'm snarky, facetious, cynical, and sarcastic. 🙃

But that's me, not you! I blame it on being raised on MAD magazine in the 1970s and early 1980s. 😜

Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Jason844 I hope you're right. But I've already seen evidence that it is just human nature on social media. Would be very happy to be wrong though. But I can pick out a post by someone who has gone through it a mile away
Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Oh, man. The anti-waffle people. They are the worst.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@roadskater I don't even know how to feel about waffles any more tbh
Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Oh, god, that's they were trying to do to you. Mind-F-ing.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@roadskater when they take waffles away what do you even have left
Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica As long as they shut the hell up about hash browns, I can probably get by.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023

@roadskater oh, not hash browns. Those are the trash they put on your plate because they don't care about you and want you to end your breakfast on a sad note. Hash browns are an affront to breakfast eaters, sir.

😉

Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Okay, now I'm affronted.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@roadskater by hash browns? Boy, I feel you on that one.
Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Circling back to the original point of your thread, "Don't dis my food!"
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@roadskater if we ever go out to eat together and I get something with hash browns you can have mine 😊
Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Sounds like a tasty deal. I will admit I am partial to French toast rather than waffles.
Show threadJust BobyMay 8, 2023
@roadskater @AbandonedAmerica Finally, the first French toast person in this French-toast-erasing thread!
Show threadBrian WooleyMay 8, 2023

@roadskater @boby_biq @AbandonedAmerica

An omelette. With home fries.

Come at me, bro 😬

Show threadRoadskater, Ph.D.May 8, 2023
@brian_wooley It's a butter knife in my right hand, but you better take my threatening advance seriously.
Show threadChristiaan MolemanMay 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica Only healthy solution is to just tell people who willfully misinterpret and attack you like this to GO AWAY or block if they don't leave you alone. Can't always fully stamp it out, but it's definitely not worth engaging.

I mean don't you realize that some people can't eat waffles?! How DARE you enjoy waffles?

Show threadMatt BlazeMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica So on the nose it hurts.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@mattblaze it's funny in a not funny way that some of the people replying to this are people I realize really get this on a deep spiritual level. I wish I knew a solution for it 💔
Show threadProbably Paul 🌍May 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica @mattblaze

I hear ya. 👇

https://mastodon.social/@BarrenPlanet/110329677389983528

Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@BarrenPlanet @mattblaze yes. You have to know every possible problem with a view despite being a mortal with no way of actually knowing those things
Show threadProbably Paul 🌍May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica @mattblaze Yeah, exactly that.
Show threadSean BalaMay 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica

But how could you forget about crepes?! Very insensitive of you... :P

I understand you completely. Internet can really turn the mind to mush trying to manage so many relationships.

Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023

@seanbala it's also geocentric of me, tbh. I've never really had crepes for breakfast.

It does damage you, though, as you alluded to. There's a fear to it.

Show threadHasufinMay 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica That's completely justified.

I do wonder how much is due to terrifying lack of critical reading and interpretive skills: ppl are able to understand the written word but lack the ability to understand that anything isn't made either as a statement of fact or as a persona attack, and so interpret it and respond that way.

OTOH, some ppl are performative assholes, frequently b/c that's the only way they can get a response at all.

Show threadHasufinMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica And I note that kind of thing is usually directed at other people on the same side of the cultural spectrum - I suspect b/c the other side simply ignores any opposition, so feeling like you can punch and *someone* will feel it is better than nothing.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Hasufin excellent point. It hurts more if you attack someone who cares
Show threadHasufinMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Yes, that's it exactly. Much more succinct than I was expressing it.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Hasufin ah, we worked on it together. I was just seeing what you said and understanding it 😊
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Hasufin yep. And you never know which is which and tbh either one can mess you up
Show threadHasufinMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica When I'm being hit in the head, I don't care whether it was meant in anger, by accident, or "ironically".
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@Hasufin very true. A lot of people enjoy "joking" in ways that can come off as pretty aggressive from a stranger
Show threadAllan ChowMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica https://youtu.be/aJX4ytfqw6k
opinions on the internet

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Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@grumpasaurus I love it the camera shake is what really makes it
Show threadAllan ChowMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica this person's vines were the best
Show threadCrazyMyraMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica The misunderstanding gets worse the more nuance there is to the original statement, often resulting in you pre-emptively modifying what you say.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@OutOnTheMoors I've preemptively modified to the point where I just didn't bother posting the original thought. Kind of the ultimate preemptive modification if you think about it 😄
Show thread***Dave Hill 🇺🇸🇺🇦🇨🇦🇬🇱🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica "Wait, you like French Toast? You monster!"
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@three_star_dave honestly french toast is my choice here aside from chicken and waffles
Show threadSam Hetchler (Kg6hxm)May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica
I'm just glad you're eating!
@three_star_dave
Show threadInterpipes 💙May 8, 2023

@AbandonedAmerica after a particularly hair raising journey home in one of those dark and rainy nights that soaks not just the world but your very soul I made an observation about the many unlit cyclists I had seen that evening and how this seemed unwise.

That was the day when I realised that there were people who sat monitoring certain words for stranger’s tweets to dogpile.

One of them went through *5 years* of my tweets just to find something to whatabout me over.

Show threadInterpipes 💙May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica I stood my ground (and tried to find /common/ ground), muted the people who really just wanted someone to hate to leave them screaming into the void, but as a dude otherwise playing life and social media on easy mode it sure was a sobering tiny preview into the world of targeted harassment.
Show threadJacobMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica This tweet really is evergreen.
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@SnoozyRests oh that's wild, I was not consciously referencing that at all, but I guess I must have read it at some point since I used the same set up. I'm not sure how I feel about my brain doing that without telling me
Show threadJacobMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica memetics are wild huh
Show threadAbandoned AmericaMay 8, 2023
@SnoozyRests I'm relieved I was at least making a somewhat different and adjacent point using the analogy but still, wtf brain
Show threadLeonardoMay 8, 2023
Tenho pensado no porque disto. E acho que o modelo em si está quebrado. O ser humano é muito diverso em sua história de vida, suas opiniões e interesses. E vc simplesmente jogar uma opinião em 250 caracteres para milhares de pessoas aleatórias vai sempre encontrar discordâncias. Seja forma, conteúdo ou importância. Não estou nem falando dos trolls ou dos robots que tem objetivos em certos tópicos. Estou falando do "gosto de queijo com goiabada". Uma opinião inócua. 1/2
Show threadLeonardoMay 8, 2023
Vai ter gente que não gosta de queijo. Vai ter gente que não gosta de goiabada. Vai ter quem diga qual o queijo certo. Quem reclame de qualquer coisa. Pq nâo é "natural" a maior parte dos comentários leves devemos fazer para os nossos, e em contextos que sabemos seguros. E discussôes mais amplas e profundas também tem que ser direcionadas para os fóruns certos, onde quem entende e se interessa está. E onde é possível escrever com mais profundidade e argumentação. Que comecem os hates :) 2/2
Show threadThomas Lee ✅ May 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica I take the point. But, in defence of #waffles, they have different characteristics that make them a good alternative. Cooked freshly, they are very crisp. This makes a great base for #Norwegian #Brunost (brown cheese), local jam, and whipped cream. The texture and taste is sublime.
#Pancakes vs #Waffles? The obvious answer is both, but probably NOT at the same time. But don't be a hater!
Show threadNorman WilsonMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica Why do you hate scrambled eggs? The 42nd Amendment to the Dietary Rules protects the freedom to bear scrambled eggs!
Show threadGreg HarrisMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica posts like this make me glad noone follows me or notices what I say.
I can't even imagine the amount of crap mildly popular folks have to deal with on socials.
#screamintothevoid
Show threadRaphaelMay 8, 2023
@AbandonedAmerica "...and that's not to say now that in me younger years I didn't enjoy a boiled sweet..."