JT

"Before anything else, if a subject isn't willing to engage with kink, I'm not going to be interested in owning them... A slave must be willing to <list>."

I'm having trouble reading this as anything other than "you must be this kinky to ride." That's fine as a personal preference, but there's an implication that those who aren't X kinky aren't... serious?

If so, fuck that noise. You can have D/s without the rest of BDSM. We regularly do mental edge play with hypnosis where my memory/identity are wiped, but we've never done pain, punishment, or humiliation.

Propaganda like this prevented us from engaging with the community for 20 years. We didn't think we were "serious" enough kinksters. Cut off from a community that sounded hostile, we had to re-learn many lessons ourselves.

If you're following this course and you think you're not kinky enough: don't worry. You are still one of us.

#LowerYourSelf #slavetraining

Feb 17, 2023 at 6:54amWeb
Show threadJTFeb 17, 2023

... that said, I get it.

My (now) wife was the first romantic partner I had ever come out to as kinky. Being in the closet about kink had ruined my previous relationship, and I was tired of it. Before things got hot and heavy with my now wife, I felt obligated to let her know that I was a kinky mother fucker and needed kink in my life.

My wife was not kinky, but she was willing. She became kinky the first time she made me forget my name as part of our play.

Had I been gatekeeping on kink, I'd never have met the love of my life.

Show threadKinky Panther cubFeb 19, 2023
@notyou1515 I've once had someone call me a "noob" when we were talking about BDSM. It made me feel just like that - like I'm not worthy to call myself kinky because my experiences were too tame.
Show threadJTFeb 19, 2023

@panthercub

It's so unnecessary. Just... don't denigrate anyone.

Unless of course they're into it, and you've talked about it and worked that out. :)