If you want to refer to the Parent who gave birth to you without gendering them call them your Tokos.

That's a Greek word most famous for it's use in the compound words #Theotokos (Birth-Giver of God) and #Christotokos (Birth-Giver of Christ) very ancient traditional titles of #Mary the Birth-Giver of Jesus.

According to the Qur'an Surah 3.36 Mary was assigned Female at Birth even though the child was really Male.