Courtney Heard 🇨🇦What the fuck even are weddings and how do so many people get duped into thinking major debt is the only way to start a life together?
Patrick Stewart ✅Adam Ruins Everything - Why Weddings Are A Total Rip-Off
Stéphanie Pageau@godlessmom It's also possible to not get in debt and still have a wedding! Sometimes it's the only way to get both families together 😄
ARandomPotato@Pheneatis @godlessmom getting both families together (or all of one family for that matter) was pretty much the worst aspect of my wedding and I highly recommend eloping 😆
Tim Richards@godlessmom Well @NarrelleMHarris and I got married but we did so in secret to save all the expense and fuss. Though that then did cause some fuss in itself. ;)
Helena Rigby@godlessmom although I'm married I think we had a total of 22 people there, all close relatives. It was a small ceremony and just a pretty normal meal afterwards. We drove home via the coast as a honeymoon (we only stayed a few hours). We got guests to send us any photos that they took. It didn't cost much. I can't figure out how people want to spend thousands, except to make a big show of it. We loved each other so didn't feel we needed that.
Patty Bluebird 🦩@godlessmom People focus on the fancy and expensive day without a thought as to what marriage is truly about.
Jess the Dessert Geek@godlessmom So when we got engaged, I started searching for ways to organize it all, since this was a New Scary Task and surely folks must have gotten support before. And it is all too easy to get any of those wedding planning tools and then be bombarded with all this stuff to get ready and haven't you booked your photographer yet, you're only 24 months out!
Between that and just all the social pressure we almost had a 50 person garden wedding. I hadn't realized the sheer power before then.
Chad Briggs@godlessmom we had eight people at our wedding, in an Ottawa park with the priest pulled from the yellow pages. Best start we could have had
Catherine Novak@godlessmom Capitalism telling us what is a "proper" wedding! But you can do it a lot more simply. I did 33 years ago, and though the marriage was finished 16 years later, I still like how we handled the wedding.
MaksiSanctum has moved@godlessmom We always recommend a small wedding and that they use any money for a downpayment on a house.
Somcak@godlessmom we did our wedding for $150 just 7 years ago. 2 friends gifted us a strawberry Chantilly cake, 1/2 sheet. Another friend was a notary & gifted us the service. We did it at his parents house.
I bought a beautiful non-formal dress at a discount retailer; hubby wore slacks & a work shirt he already had. We bought flowers at the grocery store & set them in painted glass jars we had saved from food stuffs. Catering was sub sandwiches & chips. Rented chairs & a table.
@somcak love this so much. I'm not technically married to my husband but when we do, we're just hitting the beach in shorts lol
@godlessmom that sounds so cool! A wedding should be a celebration of the couple by the couple, not a big ass debt fest!
Ryan Egesdahl 
@godlessmom It’s taken my husband and me nearly six years to have a ceremony after being married, and the only reason we’re doing it now is because my husband’s mother wants to pay for it. It’s going to be a really fun party to celebrate our marriage, but nobody in our families think it’s necessary. We are better together, and no ceremony nor the absence thereof makes an ounce of difference to that.
🏳️🌈 Lucy Wildboots 
@godlessmom @somcak the Perfect Wedding says to the world that you buy what marketers are selling you.
MarleyMuskoka@godlessmom my wedding was $400.
nerdybutcute 
@godlessmom fuck that. my wife and i did a five minutes ceremony in front of a library (we love books) officiated by the local county commissioner. then we went out to eat. total cost, including licenses, about a hundred bucks.
beevo@godlessmom my spouse and i got married on a valentines day promo at a ski resort for zero. Well, $75 for a marriage license. And free lift passes for getting married, so really we saved $125 on a day of snowboarding 🤣
We always hated valentines day before that so now we made it our own.
tiberianpun@godlessmom my wife and I were given £3k from family for our wedding. We spent a couple of hundred on a registry office and renting a nearby pub for the reception. We spent the rest on having an awesome honeymoon in Europe.
No debt, just good times :)
CheryllC@godlessmom
Walked away from our weddong with a profit. Didn't take out a bank loan to make it happen.
If we couldnt afford it outright, we didnt get it.
Walked away from our weddong with a profit. Didn't take out a bank loan to make it happen.
If we couldnt afford it outright, we didnt get it.
HighTechWriter@godlessmom the church donated our wedding there, so we didn’t pay anything, God bless them. (We couldn’t afford it.) It was a beautiful evening wedding.
SocialistStan@godlessmom A leftover of feudal tradition, as they are conceived of now at least.
Bonding ceremonies between a couple goes back thousands of years.
Rev. Jesus “H” Christ, KSC@godlessmom last marriage I officiated was about a dozen people on Halloween at someone’s house; nice and super cheap.
@reverendjesus oooooooh was it Halloween themed?
Lorraine@godlessmom https://www.huffpost.com/entry/generation-y-unhappy_b_3930620
analysis 10 yrs old but really more relevant than ever
altho not directed just at weddings specifically… it’s the same #mentality #keepingUpWithTheJones #socialConformity #HamsterWheel #envy
analysis 10 yrs old but really more relevant than ever
altho not directed just at weddings specifically… it’s the same #mentality #keepingUpWithTheJones #socialConformity #HamsterWheel #envy
Big Head Tales@godlessmom Well, for the same reason people saddle themselves with a lifetime of debt to qualify for a receptionist job…
Oh, wait, you’re in Canada, never mind, it’s mostly an American thing.