Earlier this year (or last year?) I was working on an anthology piece to submit to an awesome collection of trans writing that @mxnillin had underway
and, instead of manifesting a piece about how I honored and loved my own gender,
ended up realizing
1) I'm pretty #agender and
2) my lifelong destiny has always been "gender accomplice".
While partners & I over the last decade loved to joke about how "there's something in the water"
it's *actually* just evidence that if you allow people to experiment, support them, and don't judge or shame them in the process,
they might just learn something about themselves they needed to know.
I have no investment in making anyone else trans.
I'm just gonna dress you up like Catwoman for Halloween if you ask me to.
It's not my doing if you come out later!
(that's a real story, btw, a partner of some 3-4 years in my life with 0 egg vibes came out as trans after asking me to dress her up for Halloween.)
If playing dress-up, doing exquisite make-up, or shaving helps you realize some things about yourself, those are your revelations.
I'm just the weirdo who will spend 4 hours in the shower shaving your entire body out of love and support.
SugarCunt (they)