our society loves to consume porn but they also hate porn and want to push it into some seedy corner of the internet where they can feel dirty and guilty or something.
i actually see this kind of contradiction elsewhere:
- pressuring women to be extremely sexy, but also if they have sex they're terrible/used/etc
- feeling like drinking alcohol is a vice but drinking culture pressuring people into drinking a lot, or at all
-literally every problem men face in a patriarchy
ppl will still try to include "almost porn" in everything, to the point where it becomes tiring. that is, the standard imagery of sexy women that is basically background noise.
several years ago i was on some subreddit that was being plagued by pics of hot girls (it was a sub completely unrelated to that). it was alienating the female users. I asked why ppl couldn't just go to a porn subreddit
response was "so we can look at sexy girls without feeling dirty" or something.
also the most maligned porn and sexual imagery are the ones that have a woman-centric or queer-centric audience. part of why people liked to hate on tumblr is it had a LOT of EXACTLY THOSE THINGS.
there are some other misogynistic asymmetries like hating them b/c of the "toxic fandoms" while turning a blind eye to, say, sports fans rioting in the streets or male nerds who send death threats to creators.
Alex 
Celsiusbits
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