as of last night's viewing session, i'm now ~1/3 thru S5 of #GilmoreGirls [being my 3rd or 4th series watch/rewatch, iirc]. it's set mainly in USA's Connecticut, & made+set in the early Oughties. at about that same time, in [mainly] straya, i was #transitioning, & ironically knew nothing of GG til being introduced to it by some of my merkan friends in thailand during rehab after some of our surgeries.

much as i mostly love this series, each re-viewing brings some jarring moments, which i struggle to explain & which kinda hit like a tummy punch. now & then, it makes #gay / #lesbian jokes, & at least one time albeit i vaguely think there might be a second, #trans jokes. they are toned not as in-jokes by empathic allies; they are punching-down meannesses. two examples;

  • "that woman looks like she's a man" [laughter ensued]
  • "we [lorelai & luke, spoken by lorelai] could go on the run, & both of us have a sex change; you'd have to have one too, so then we could still hold hands & kiss in public, otherwise it would be weird"

what was the vanilla public's #LGBTQI "mood" like in US, especially New England, in the early Oughties?

So the last few days ago I had my last laser hair removal for my beard (outside of top-ups I will have to do in the future) - and considering where I started I’m SUPER pleased on the end results!   

#transgender #trans #transfem #transwomen #transitioning #transjoy

Any steps towards transitioning must be done for yourself.

You are the one who will live with the consequences of your choices whether that is living as you already are or taking steps to change things.

This is something that simply must be about you.

#TransPositivity #NonBinaryPositivity #transitioning

It's fine and normal if you want to gain some gendered characteristics out of your transition as a nonbinary person.

"Nonbinary" can look like anything. All human qualities are possible for nonbinary people.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinary #transitioning #GenderAffirmingCare

Nonbinary people can and often do take steps to transition.

It's not because they're really trans men or women in denial. Nonbinary people transition so that they can live better, more fulfilling lives.

They're not ending a phase. It's the start of metamorphosis.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #transitioning

You can take your time settling into an openly nonbinary life.

It might feel urgent to "get it all done" due to paperwork deadlines or simply the pain of having to live in your current state. Nevertheless, you are strong enough to survive until other chances come along.

If you need it, you can take the time to experiment.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinary #transitioning

I struggle with the desire to be seen as simply a person without the gender baggage. I'm sure many other nonbinary people do, too.

However, we can't control what other people think or believe about us or anything else, and chasing that is an endless task.

Try to adjust things for your own sake, so that you can feel contented on your own.

Become yourself even if others pretend not to see it.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #transitioning