My submissive has seemed a little distracted the last fortnight or so, so the other day I asked what was happening. He told me he's busier at work than he expected and that things at home were a bit stressful as well.
I asked further, and also assured him that if we needed to retool our dynamic to make space for other things happening at the moment we could definitely do that.. we have all the options available to make our dynamic into whatever we want, needing to change things didn't mean the end of things.
He then went on to explain that his wife's sister has just been given a cancer diagnosis and he's been trying to support his wife while she's dealing with that and supporting her sister.
We chatted some more and have decided to slow things right the way down so he can spend as much time and emotional space as possible with his family. We're still touching base, I've offered to be of whatever help they need.
It's frustrating to be someone's top and not be able to actually do anything to protect them from this sort of thing.
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