Do you know what is really hard to recognize?
It's when you escape into a relationship or a friendship just to feel like you truly belong somewhere. That you really matter to someone. I just read a post about an old friend of mine who is exactly in this phase right now, and it is so hard to stop myself from helping him, from warning him that he is going to get hurt. I can't say anything because it's none of my business, it's not my life, and overall, we don't even talk anymore.
In my second relationship, I fell in love with someone from abroad. The distance between us was huge, and although he visited me a few times, I was absolutely sure he would never be willing to move to me; I had to make the move. I knew exactly that he wouldn't wait for me if I didn't do anything. So I went on a study trip and decided that no matter what it takes, I was going to study there. That way, I could be with him and further my education at the same time. Three months later, the guy realized that it bothered him that he had no personal space (even though he was home completely alone all day), and he and his mother kicked me out of the house. That was when I realized I had practically bet my whole life on a single person, acted for a single goal, and meanwhile, I didn't even care about those who, although they didn't try to stop me, at least tried to warn me. I just pushed away everyone who was getting to be too much, and I didn't contact them anymore.
And now I see the same pattern, and it's incredibly hard because this guy and I were really good friends for nearly six years. What is the guarantee he would even listen to me? Almost none, since we have nothing to do with each other anymore. He would do the exact same thing I did: push away everyone who rationally tried to tell him the truth.
Over the past few years, I think I have become incredibly strong emotionally, and I can see behind things much more easily now. I had to toughen up because I didn't want to die. Or rather, yes I did, after my family practically brought me back home, and I felt I had no place on Earth anymore. I'll be honest, I almost hurt myself. The only reason I didn't do it was that I wasn't alone, and my best friend kept talking to me until I realized that I have a wonderful father, two awesome sisters, a loving grandmother, my best friend, and they all love me. And let this motivate everyone who finds themselves in a similar situation.

#emotions #psichology #motivation #relationship

"Psychology has neglected the topic of imprinting in man. ...
The present-day economy is an interweaving of motivations and desires and, engaging with it, we simply cannot ignore what lies at the root of the forces which motivate a human being. Observations suggest that imprinting is fundamental to much of human behaviour, ... The fact that psychology is ill-informed about imprinting does not mean that we do not meet its manifestations in everyday life. ...
The role of imprinting in matters of the heart is not entirely clear, but is certainly significant. At the very least it can be traced in the perception of types of beauty, which are laid down by toy factories and polished by advertisements and glossy magazines....
Successful advertisement too cannot do without it [imprinting]. ..."

I repeat what I wrote on my yesterday's post: The most terrifying thought is that the world is now in the hands of the economists.

#Economy #imprinting #man #society #behaviour #Psichology

AI does not reveal itself, does not come into consciousness. So why do people insist it does?

https://pub.aimind.so/do-algorithms-dream-of-electrical-souls-7c2817384874

#AI #ethics #psichology #spirituality #tech #revelation #philosophy #future #statistics #machinelearning

Kasturi M.

"If it only works when you swallow your words, keep your mouth shut and cage your authenticity stop calling it love."

#psichology #relationships

AI that starts in suspicion ends in enforcement.
The pipeline runs through courts, schools, and workplaces.
Essay: The Suspicion Pipeline

https://medium.com/@Diogo_Mendes/the-suspicion-pipeline-47b35fd214cb

#AI #artificialintelligence #psichology #Ethics #sociology #law #enforcement #education #future #datascience #machinelearning #suspicion #medium #essay

Может ли искусственный интеллект «понимать» и почему «думать» — это вредно

В статье осуществляется комплексный разбор феномена "понимания" применительно как к искусственному интеллекту, так и к человеку. Для наглядности предлагается авторский мысленный эксперимент "Два солдата" и кое-что в нагрузку.

https://habr.com/ru/articles/904596/

#ai #agi #philosophy #psichology

Даниэль Канеман, когнитивные искажения, кризис и UX/UI

Привет! Меня зовут Мария, я ux/ui дизайнер и по совместительству организатор Книжного Клуба Product offline. Книжный Клуб Product offline — это небольшое закрытое комьюнити в Санкт — Петербурге, которое объединяет под своим крылом всех причастных к созданию айтишных продуктов людей, которые в чтении находят инсайты и стремятся обсуждать их с единомышленниками и применяют полученные знания в работе и коммуникации с пользователями/командой/продуктом/бизнесом. Для меня, как для горящего и восторженного новичка, стала открытием книга, которую мы читаем на данный момент: Даниэль Канеман » Thinking slow and fast » . Эта книга перевернула для меня работу подсознания и помогла увидеть, как можно работать с пользовательским опытом в ux/ui дизайне через призму когнитивных искажений. И вот, я загорелась идеей написать пост для Хабра. Опытным единомышленникам мой пост скорее покажется тривиальным или очевидным. Возможно, кому — то напомнит о важности принятия в серьёз когнитивных искажений. Новичкам, как и мне, покажет мир пользовательского опыта с другой — глубокой, психологической стороны и, возможно, завлечёт прочитать эту удивительную книгу. Кому — то этот гайд послужит помощью в проектировании интерфейсов. Располагайтесь поудобнее, запаситесь чаем/кофе, печеньем и приятного прочтения! Начну с представления действующих лиц этой книги. Канеман предлагает нам познакомиться с Системой 1 и Системой 2 (далее С1 и С2) Поехали!

https://habr.com/ru/articles/871798/

#ux_design #psichology #prototype #book #статья #дизайн #дизайн_интерфейсов

How aggressive people are sometimes. Acceptance is valid as long as you share their opinion. As soon as you disagree, they hurt you, scold you, fight with you. As long as you value their principles and act on them, you will be respected. But if you are not like them, then problems begin. Unfortunately, this is the society we live in and our small but aggressive blind community is no exception. When people are hurt because they are against necrophilia, there is nothing wrong with that and it is perfectly acceptable for a person to have fifty identities, to identify themselves as, say, a cat... And it's perfectly normal. But for someone to find it disgusting to become famous by hyping dead people is unacceptable. It's the world we live in.

#psichology
#politics
#society

Как странно, что сегодня наши родители уже смеются над тем, что их в прошлом могли бить учителя. Потому что тогда это было всё хорошо. А годы настолько приукрашивают эти воспоминания.
Их душевные раны привели к тому, что мы, их дети, вынуждены постоянно ходить к психологам, потому что ненавидим себя, страдаем от синдрома отличника...
Действительно ли это так смешно, что их могли травмировать таким образом?
Кстати, зачастую слова пугают людей гораздо сильнее... Но это уже лишь моё мнение.

#dailythoughts
#psichology

То чувство, когда в твоей жизни есть человек, с которым иногда можно всю ночь разговаривать о самых глупых вещах в мире так, что даже не замечаешь, как наступает утро. И потом ты начинаешь видеть жизнь с совершенно другой точки зрения... Как будто ты сделал поворот на 180 градусов.

#psichology
#психология
#randomthoughts
#мысли