I created the pain in my reality. Regardless of what other people were doing, it was my perception that created the pain I experienced. Nothing else.

Della

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What if I told you the truth wasn't painful?

Would you believe me?

We think the truth hurts because of our perception of it. The truth is actually neutral though. It just is.

The truth in my own life is that I created my own pain through my wonky perception and the actions that I took because of that wonky perception.

I hurt me. I created my pain. I created my reality. I created many of the problems that I perceived in my own life.

Does that mean that nobody projected their pain at me? That nobody around me did anything "bad"?

Of course not. Here's the thing: I can't control them. If they choose to project their pain that's up to them. My job is to control what I do with that. I can make that painful for myself through my perception and the story that I make up about it or I can accept that they are throwing pain, not pick it up, not try to control it, and just leave it there. I don't have to take it on. That's a choice that I get to make every time somebody does or says something that I perceive to be painful.

I create my own pain through my perception of myself and other people. Other people throwing their pain around does not automatically mean I need to be in pain too. That's a story and a choice. I'm in control of that.

When people say mean things to me these days, I don't defend myself anymore. Does that surprise you? I don't tell people off. I don't argue. I just leave it. People are in pain, they are allowed to be there. I don't try to change it or them. They just are. I don't have to do anything about it. I've made a choice to stop defending myself from the pain of others.

I have control over my own perception. I can question the story the ego makes up. I don't have to take on anything that's not mine. I've learned to just be okay most of the time.

My entire journey has been about a search for truth. When I started healing I asked the Universe to make it make sense. I wanted to understand the pain and what I came to was very simple: my screwy, wonky perception created 99% of the pain that I experienced, nothing else.

That truth offered me peace. I no longer need to defend myself against anything. I don't have to argue with my past. I don't have to beat myself up. I don't have to do any of it. It's all just allowed to be there and I can be okay surrounded by it.

This is the journey that I try to offer through my work. I want you to find this for yourself. Because of that I've scheduled a "brainstorming session" for this coming Sunday where we're talking about focus and why it matters so much.

Unlike past workshops and things that I've done, I'm not teaching anything this time, I'm just sharing. I'm sharing intuitively while opening up to discussion and questions. I want to see what comes through. I want to see what we can uncover and what we can learn about the truth in our focus.

It's only $27 CAD or about $20 USD. If that's a stretch, which I totally get, just message me. We can work it out. I'll be offering it in a private Facebook group because it makes offering the recording really simple. I never close those Facebook groups so it will be there indefinitely.

I still have private coaching spots and one-off sessions available for those who would like a little bit more unwinding the stories they are telling themselves.

Here's the link. https://dellawren.com

The first button on the page is for the Your Focus Matters brainstorming session on Sunday.

See you there.

Love to all.

Della

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