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Painful memories have sentimental value to you, but that doesn't mean you have to share them with everybody. Share your pain wisely.

Della

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I was just writing my Thursday blog for my Patreon subscribers which will be out a little later today and I came upon something I wanted to share with you.

Painful memories are just that - painful memories. We're not going for desensitization. We're not actually trying to remove the pain or make it so that we never feel pain again. The pain attached to the memory can stay where it is - attached to the memory.

So what are we doing then?

Painful memories are sentimental to us. They have additional value because of the emotions attached to them. We like to bring out those memories and share them with people because it helps to create connection with others. There is nothing wrong with that.

Projection is when we take that same painful memory and shove it in somebody's face because they triggered the pain attached to the memory.

Healing comes when you realize that the pain attached to the memory can stay where it is. You don't have to dig it out when life experience reminds you its there. You can leave it there and go find healthy ways to share about the pain that you've experienced.

Learning how to do that is what allows you to stop throwing your pain everywhere. Realize what the pain is and why it's there. Don't try to get rid of it. Just learn to leave it alone more. It doesn't need to be constantly poked at.

The truth is the pain doesn't hurt you until you take it out of the box and flash it around. It's kind of like trying to pick up a cactus. The cactus won't hurt you either until you touch it.

The deal is you get to decide when to poke at it. Life experience doesn't make that choice; you do. The only thing that's happening is that you're not making the conscious choice. Life experience still determines how you feel.

You can change that when you're ready. I'm here to help.

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Love to all.

Della

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