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Why Playing Both Sides is a No-Go
Hey guys, it’s Tina. Grab a snack, get comfortable, and let’s have a little heart-to-heart.
I posted something on my stories earlier that really seemed to strike a chord, and I wanted to expand on it here because, honestly, it’s been weighing on my mind. The post said: “& if u ever played both sides in any situation pertaining me, I don’t fw you let’s get that clear ✌🏾😆”
I know, I know—it sounds a bit blunt. But if you know me, you know I value transparency over everything.
The “Double Agent” Energy
We’ve all met that one person. You know the type. When they’re with you, they’re your absolute best friend. They’re nodding along, saying, “Oh my god, I totally agree, that was so out of line!” Then, ten minutes later, they’re across the room with the person they were just venting about, laughing and doing the exact same thing.
It’s called “playing Switzerland,” but honestly? Switzerland has better chocolate and way less drama.
Loyalty is Not a Part-Time Job
In my world, loyalty isn’t a part-time job. I’m not asking for blind devotion—I’m a grown woman, I can handle a difference of opinion. What I can’t handle is the “double agent” energy. If you’re trying to be a bridge between me and someone who’s actively disrespecting me, you aren’t a peacemaker. You’re just a spectator enjoying the show from both front-row seats.
Why the Vibe Matters
It’s not just about the gossip. It’s about the vibe.
The Difference Between “Nice” and “Loyal”
Look, I get it. Being “nice” to everyone is easy. Being loyal is work.
I’ve had people try to come back into my circle after playing the middle man, acting like nothing happened. They’ll be like, “Tina, I just didn’t want to get involved!” Honey, by trying not to get involved, you basically signed up for a double shift of involvement.
Upfront Enemies vs. Lukewarm Friends
I’d honestly rather have an upfront enemy than a lukewarm friend. At least with an enemy, I know where the boundary is. With a “both-sides” person, I’m constantly checking my back to see if they’re holding a knife or a peace treaty. (Usually, it’s a knife wrapped in a peace treaty—very tricky!)
Choosing Quality Over Quantity
If you’re reading this and thinking, “Ouch, is she talking about me?”—maybe take a second to look at your circle. Are you being a friend, or are you just being a fan of the drama?
I’m at a point in my life where my circle is getting smaller, but the quality is getting higher. I want people around me who are solid. If I’m wrong, tell me to my face. If someone else is wronging me, don’t go grab a coffee with them and pretend it’s all good.
Final Thoughts on Respect
It’s about respect. If you can’t pick a side when things get real, then don’t be surprised when I pick the side that doesn’t include you. ✌🏾
Anyway, that’s my rant for the day! I feel ten pounds lighter just typing this out. To my real ones: I see you, I love you, and I appreciate you for being solid. To the fence-sitters: hope you have a comfortable cushion, because it looks lonely up there!
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A quotation from Henry Commager
Who among American heroes could meet their [loyalty] tests, who would be cleared by their committees? Not Washington, who was a rebel. Not Jefferson, who wrote that all men are created equal and whose motto was “rebellion to tyrants is obedience to God.” Not Garrison, who publicly burned the Constitution; or Wendell Phillips, who spoke for the underprivileged everywhere and counted himself a philosophical anarchist; not Seward of the Higher Law or Sumner of racial equality. Not Lincoln, who admonished us to have malice toward none, charity for all; or Wilson, who warned that our flag was “a flag of liberty of opinion as well as of political liberty”; or Justice Holmes, who said that our Constitution is an experiment and that while that experiment is being made “we should be eternally vigilant against attempts to check the expression of opinions that we loathe and believe to be fraught with death.”Henry Steele Commager (1902-1998) American historian, writer, activist
Essay (1947-07), “Who Is Loyal to America?” sec. 2, Harper’s Magazine, Vol. 195, No. 1168
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Who among American heroes could meet their tests, who would be cleared by their committees? Not Washington, who was a rebel. Not Jefferson, who wrote that all men are created equal and whose motto was "rebellion to tyrants is obedience to God." Not Garrison, who publicly burned the Constitution; or…
A Love Letter to People Who Don’t Have Time for the BS
Hey everyone, it’s Tina.
I was scrolling through my phone the other day and saw a quote that hit me harder than my third cup of espresso hits my nervous system at 10:00 AM. It said: “Some of the nicest people you’d meet in life are those ‘no nonsense’ kinda people. They got big hearts but they don’t take shit from nobody.”
As soon as I read it, I felt seen. But more importantly, I started thinking about all the “scary” people in my life who turned out to be the absolute softest marshmallows when it counts.
The Misunderstood “Intimidating” Personality Type
You know the type. They’re the ones at work who don’t indulge in the “How was your weekend?” small talk for twenty minutes when there’s a deadline looming. They’re the friends who will tell you, “Tina, that outfit is a crime against fashion,” instead of letting you walk into a party looking like a confused highlighter.
At first glance, people call them “mean” or “intimidating.” But honestly? I’ve realized these are the only people I actually want in my corner.
Why Honest Friendships are Better Than “Fake Nice”
There’s a specific kind of honesty that comes with a no-nonsense person. You never have to wonder where you stand with them. If they like you, they actually like you. They aren’t doing that weird social dance where they smile to your face and then roll their eyes the second you turn around.
If a no-nonsense person offers you a compliment, you should probably frame it, because they don’t hand those out like participation trophies.
Big Hearts and Blunt Truths: The Irony of the No-Nonsense Persona
The irony is that these people usually have the biggest hearts in the room. They’re the first ones to show up with a shovel when your car is stuck in the snow or bring over a lasagna when you’re going through a breakup—they just might call you an idiot for driving in a blizzard or dating that loser while they’re doing it.
Hardness as a Defense Mechanism
I think their “hardness” is actually a defense mechanism for how much they care. When you care deeply about people, justice, and doing things right, you naturally run out of patience for the “nonsense”—the drama, the lies, and the people who waste everyone’s time.
Navigating a World of Passive-Aggression
In a world that feels like it’s constantly wrapped in layers of “fake nice” and passive-aggressive emails (looking at you, “Per my last email”), there is something so incredibly refreshing about someone who just says it like it is.
Embracing My Inner No-Nonsense Tina
I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to be the “nice” one—the one who agrees with everyone and keeps the peace until I’m basically a human doormat. But lately, I’m leaning into my inner “no-nonsense Tina.”
It turns out, you can be a kind, loving human being and still have a very short fuse for total BS. In fact, I think the two actually go hand-in-hand. You can’t truly protect your “big heart” if you let everyone walk all over it with muddy boots.
A Toast to the Blunt Friends
So, here’s to the blunt friends. The ones who don’t sugarcoat the truth because they know you aren’t made of glass. The ones who are “mean” enough to tell you the truth and “kind” enough to stay while you process it.
We see you. We love you. Please don’t yell at us for being late to the brunch we definitely didn’t RSVP for yet.
Do you have a “no-nonsense” person in your life who is secretly a total sweetheart? Or are you that person in your friend group? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear your stories!
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