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… detained, with many reportedly tortured, forcibly disappeared or subjected to mock executions. At least 156 individuals have been executed since the war began, including 42 on espionage & national security charges, with many following proceedings in which confessions were reportedly extracted under #torture & legal counsel denied, the independent experts detailed.“
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„The United Nations has welcomed reports of a new ceasefire #agreement between Israel and #Hezbollah on Friday while warning that civilians on the ground are still fleeing amid ongoing #insecurity. (…) Since the war began in late February, Iranian authorities have moved aggressively against dissent. Thousands have been …
Robbers kill OOU freshman, Police launch manhunt as students protest insecurity
By Adebola Isimijola, LagosA 100-level student of Olabisi Onabanjo University (OOU), Ago-Iwoye, Ogun State, was shot dead by suspected armed robbers who invaded a student hostel in the early hours of Thursday, sparking protests by students and prompting the police to launch a manhunt for the perpetrators.The victim was reportedly killed during an attack on a hostel located around the Bukky's Court area, where the assailants allegedly carted away phones, laptops and other valuables belonging […]
You Are Not Cynical. You Are Exhausted From Hoping.
The Confusion Between Peace and Boredom
A lot of people who have been through enough emotional disappointment start doing something quietly destructive without realizing it. They begin to confuse peace with boredom. A calm relationship starts to feel wrong somehow. Flat. Like something is missing. And because the relationships that felt electric were also the ones that caused the most damage, the brain starts filing stability under suspicious and chaos under familiar.
That is not cynicism. That is a nervous system that learned to prepare for loss before it arrived. A mind that trained itself to expect the drop because the drop kept coming. It is a survival response that made sense when it developed, and now creates problems in exactly the situations where things are actually going well.
What the Pattern Actually Says About You
When you give someone repeated chances, it is not because you are naive. It is because you want mutual care and you are willing to stay in the work of building it. You are not failing to read the room. You are choosing to believe in the possibility of what the room could become. That is a different thing entirely, and it is worth separating from weakness because it is not weakness.
Emotional dismissal hits harder than outright rejection. Rejection says this is not right. Dismissal says what you feel does not matter. For someone who invests emotionally at the depth you do, dismissal is not just painful. It is disorienting. It challenges the entire framework of how you show up for people and what you believe that kind of showing up is worth.
What Changed and When
There are experiences that change the internal architecture of how safe emotional closeness feels. A marriage ending is one of them. Not because it makes you incapable of closeness. Because it recalibrates the risk assessment. The person you chose completely, the person you built a life around, became the source of a specific kind of pain that proximity to someone creates. After that, getting close to someone requires something more conscious. More deliberate. More costly in the way that things are costly when you know exactly what losing them looks like.
That recalibration is not damaged. It is information. The problem is when the information becomes the decision before the evidence is actually in. When you start managing for the loss before you know there will be one.
More Emotionally Hopeful Than You Appear
Here is the thing that is probably true and possibly annoying to hear. You are more emotionally hopeful than you present. Significantly more. The surface reads as measured, realistic, and experienced. The behaviour underneath that surface tells a different story. You still invest. You still try. You still show up at a depth that a truly cynical person would have stopped offering years ago.
People who are genuinely cynical stop trying. They protect the investment by not making it. You keep making it. That is not naivety, and it is not stupidity. It is hope operating underneath a layer of protective realism. The hope did not go anywhere. It just learned to keep quiet so it would not be embarrassing if things went wrong again.
The Hidden Cost of Focusing on Potential
The thing that trips you up is not the depth of your investment. It is the timing of it. When you see potential in a person or a connection, the potential becomes the focus. What this could be. What they could become. What the relationship could grow into if given the right conditions. And while that focus is on the potential, the early signs of emotional imbalance, the inconsistency, the mismatched investment, the small signals that something is off, do not get the weight they deserve.
It is not that you cannot see those signals. It is that the potential feels more true than the signals do. So you extend the time. More chances. More investment. Until the signals become impossible to explain away, and by that point, the emotional cost of leaving is significantly higher than it would have been earlier.
Anger Was Never the Point
When you look honestly at what drives the pattern, it is not anger. It never pointed toward anger. It pointed toward longing. The desire for something specific that kept almost materializing and then not quite. That distinction matters because anger and longing require different things from you going forward.
Anger needs an outlet or a resolution. Longing needs the right object. And the right object in this case is not intensity. It is not the electric unpredictability that keeps the nervous system engaged. What you are actually looking for is emotional safety that lasts. The kind that does not require you to manage your expectations downward to survive it. The kind where being fully present does not also mean being fully exposed to loss in the way you have already experienced it.
Consistency Is Not the Absence of Feeling
The recalibration that needs to happen is the one between consistency and flatness. A relationship that is stable is not a relationship that is emotionally inert. It is a relationship where the foundation is solid enough that the full range of emotional experience can happen without the whole thing threatening to collapse. That is not boring. That is the thing that makes everything else possible.
Deep down, you already know this. The confusion between peace and boredom did not take root completely. The belief that real consistency would feel right rather than threatening is still there underneath the protective layer. That belief is accurate. It is also the most useful thing you have going into whatever comes next.
The Search Was Never for Intensity
You are not looking for someone who makes your nervous system work overtime. You are looking for someone who makes it feel like it can finally rest. Someone who meets you at the emotional depth you offer without making you feel like that depth is too much or too inconvenient or something to be managed rather than matched.
That person exists. The version of you that keeps investing despite the history already knows that. The version that keeps hoping despite the cost already believes it. That version is not naive. It is just still paying attention. And that is the version worth listening to.
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#IRAN #WAR PUTS 45 #MILLION PEOPLE IN #FOOD #CRISIS: A #UN #World Food Programme report released in March warned that 45 million people could face acute food #insecurity, if the regional #conflict continued and if the #price of #oil remained at $100 per #barrel
The U.S. military reported that it has shot down six Iranian one-way attack drones headed toward the Strait of Hormuz, while seven ballistic missiles fired at Kuwait and Bahrain were largely intercepted as well.
As Men’s Health Month approaches in June, a new Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine/Morning Consult poll finds that most men, 53%, consider a carnivore diet—eating only animal products—to be “masculine,” but 63% said they would likely change their diet if the foods they associated with masculinity were harmful to their health.
This is a bit rich, and frankly completely stupid. Some wackjob dishonestly using #Biology to deny what biology already proves. #Gender is not a #BinaryLabel, #Sex is not #BiologicallyBinary. The science has been in for centuries. What these birdbrain people are really about (with apologies to all birds for this misrepresentation) is pure, unadulterated #bigotry laced with heavy doses of #insecurity emerging from #UnfoundedFears. There is of course some pity to be served to those individuals who have been #Brainwashed by the #Patriarchy and the #ChristoFascists currently making noises in our society disproportionate to their numbers.
FFS, people… wake up to yourselves! This member’s bill will never get up or even be discussed in any Parliamentary forum. Dustbin and fire it its only fate leaving behiind an ugly stain on the Member, their party and their electorate.
And for goodness sake electorates, stop voting for these #Fascist and #Libertarian candidates, it does your reputation no good at all, nor does it foster an inclusive and democratic society.
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