Steve Dustcircle 🌹“This Is All Your #Fault”: When Your #Adult #Child Blames You
How to respond without #defensiveness or #guilt when your #adultchild #blames you.
martin voggenberger#defensiveness against "#transparency" may arise from the #innate human #drive to process and claim understanding. transparency challenges too deeply our delusional sense of free will, control, and authorship. with #complexity as our #companion, we deliberately fail to recognize "inherent simplicity" as evidenced by meta-paradoxical tasks that require us to #rationally abandon a creature driven by irrelevant concepts.
WIST Quotations has moved!A quotation from Disraeli, Benjamin:
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Never complain and never explain.
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(Attributed) - Disraeli, Benjamin | WIST Quotations
Never complain and never explain. Most often cited to John Morley, Life of William Ewart Gladstone, Vol. 1, Book 2, ch. 2, sec. 1 (1903). This was Disraeli's distillation of advice that Lord High Chancellor John Copley, Lord Lyndhurst, gave at a January 1835 dinner attended both a young Gladstone…
Roonie the RabbitKeep your distance. #webcomic #comicstrip #defensiveness #friendship #loss #love #puttingyourguardup #winter #bunnies https://rooniecomics.com/comics/dont-make-friends-with-snowmen/?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=post&utm_content=rooniecomics
Comic: "Don’t Make Friends with Snowmen" from ROONIE THE RABBIT
RABBIT (thinking): I don't make friends with snowmen. The snowman moves slightly toward the rabbit, whose back is turned. RABBIT (thinking): Because they melt. And they leave me. Sad and alone. The snowman is now right behind the rabbit. RABBIT (thinking): I protect myself. I keep my distance. I play it cool. The snowman warmly hugs the rabbit. UNPROVOKED CUDDLE! RABBIT (thinking, with love in his heart): Dang it.
Jens Oliver MeiertSomething to Know About Defensiveness:
“The first rule of effective debate, argument, or heated conversation is to never, ever, get defensive.” On what we label as #defensiveness, and a story that appears more complete and empathetic.
Dave Underwood'Most people are not only comfortable in their ignorance, but hostile to anybody who points it out.'
― Plato
DougN 
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I recently had an interaction with someone from another instance whose toot seemed to smack of colonizer sentiments.
My fear about Mastodon being colonized by people that want it to be the bird site turned into aggressiveness. I want to apologize to everyone that saw that. I'll do better.
#apology #FuckTheFear #defensiveness #aggression #fuckElMo #DoBetter