It feels bad that people love to hate child rapists but hate to love rape survivors.

We're "damaged goods" - broken, used, used up, no longer useful. Our existence is uncomfortable. And thus we get objectified yet again. It feels like being used as a pawn in debates.

Please, be mindful when posting about csa and rape cases. Consider putting content notes on it. We survivors are real people who really use the internet. Some of us really need cns to brace ourselves before reading even really good, informative and supportive material concerning the worst trauma we've been through.

We want to be in solidarity with our siblings who were also abused or raped as children and teens. And that's hard when we face barriers to even read social media posts about the topic.

I really appreciate it when people are thoughtful. Thank you.

#epstein #EpsteinFiles #csa #rape #feminism #survivor #RapeSurvivor #survivors #CSAsurvivor #MentalHealth #DamagedGoods #RapeCulture

request for advice regarding family (for a person who's completely scarred from having a difficult family life growing up): how to stop seeing family as a burden? (like, the entire concept of "family".)

i grew up with difficult parents, where everything was governed by sacrifice, burden, obligation, etc. no one was happy, but everyone was trying hard. after trying really really hard to make my parents happy for many years, i realized that there was nothing i could do to make them happy, so i stopped.

i now live very far away, have my own life, and rarely see them. i still talk to them on the phone a fair bit (and it feels like a burden), but i can manage it.

recently my mom came to visit for a week, and as usual, i put my life on pause and spent all my waking hours taking her around and making sure she was happy. she was staying in the guest room of a friend of mine (who has a good relationship with her family) and my friend was shocked to hear that i would be relieved (instead of sad) when my mom left. she honestly couldn't understand it. it left me feeling guilty and ashamed.

but the truth is that i find it exhausting to be around my parents because it's 100% about their needs and i just have to meet their high expectations or fail. maybe it sounds selfish to say "when i'm with them, it's not about me", but that's exactly what i don't like about family: that it's just obligation. i don't feel anything positive afterwards. i guess i feel some satisfaction from a "job well done" after sending my mom back home with her having had a nice vacation, but that's all it is: i just feel like i fulfilled my duty and now i can go back to my life. i guess that's a horrible thing to think, right?

anyway, my friend can't believe that i see my parents this way. i also see having children this way: that it's just a 20 year slog of obligation, sacrifice, work, and doing things you don't want to do, to take care of someone who will probably be ungrateful in the end.

i'm obviously scarred by my difficult experience growing up (I have CPTSD), and i'm ok with not having children, but i do wonder if there's a healthier attitude i can have toward the entire idea of family. if anyone has any ideas on how i can change my perspective, i'm all ears.

#CPTSD #family #advice #MentalHealth #DamagedGoods

Damaged Goods Compilation Vol.2 fundraiser album & tees are available now!

https://damagedgoodsleeds.bandcamp.com/album/fundraiser-compilation-vol-2?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAae2sjggRrtDXiEhybLz9xNoHKii6vb9uTfgDzIS2JF90hBj5nxJ49PqoVaTSQ_aem_7BlUYbRIhakFmLgTMaFPog

FYI, next Bandcamp Friday 2025 is the 1st of August

#DamagedGoods #Leeds12 #UKHC #Music

July 6

This day in history:

• 1809 – The second day of the Battle of Wagram; France defeats the Austrian army in the largest battle to date of the Napoleonic Wars.
• 1982 – While attempting to return to Sheremetyevo International Airport, Aeroflot Flight 411, an Ilyushin Il-62, crashes near Mendeleyevo, Moscow Oblast, killing all 90 people on board.
• 1253 – Mindaugas is crowned King of Lithuania.
• 1918 – The Left SR uprising in Russia starts with the assassination of German ambassador Wilhelm von Mirbach by Cheka members.

Births:

• 1974 – Harashima, Japanese professional wrestler
• 1990 – Magaye Gueye, French footballer
• 1782 – Maria Luisa of Spain (d. 1824)

Deaths:

• 2022 – Norah Vincent, American writer (b. 1968)
• 2005 – Ed McBain, American author and screenwriter (b. 1926)
• 1995 – Aziz Nesin, Turkish author and poet (b. 1915)

Holidays:

• Independence Day (Malawi), celebrates the independence of Malawi from United Kingdom in 1964.
• Jan Hus Day (Czech Republic)
• Kupala Night (Poland, Russia, Belarus and Ukraine)

Random Article of the day:

Damaged Goods (record label)

#wikipedia #July6 #DamagedGoods(recordlabel)

Newsom calls Trump ‘damaged goods’ and ‘more unhinged’ than ever

https://thehill.com/homenews/campaign/4433234-newsom-calls-trump-damaged-goods-2024/

#NewsomTrump #DamagedGoods #Unhinged #2024Election #CampaignNews #PoliticalRivalry #Politics #News