It feels bad that people love to hate child rapists but hate to love rape survivors.

We're "damaged goods" - broken, used, used up, no longer useful. Our existence is uncomfortable. And thus we get objectified yet again. It feels like being used as a pawn in debates.

Please, be mindful when posting about csa and rape cases. Consider putting content notes on it. We survivors are real people who really use the internet. Some of us really need cns to brace ourselves before reading even really good, informative and supportive material concerning the worst trauma we've been through.

We want to be in solidarity with our siblings who were also abused or raped as children and teens. And that's hard when we face barriers to even read social media posts about the topic.

I really appreciate it when people are thoughtful. Thank you.

#epstein #EpsteinFiles #csa #rape #feminism #survivor #RapeSurvivor #survivors #CSAsurvivor #MentalHealth #DamagedGoods #RapeCulture

A child that attended my school was unalived almost 40 years ago and there is still no justice for Allison Renee Smith. April 6, 1986. Pike County Georgia.

#april6 #40years #pikecounty #justice #pikecountygeorgia #epsteinlist #csasurvivor

https://wickedlizzie.substack.com/p/how-intergenerational-trauma-played

#intergenerationaltrauma
#traumainformed
#peersupport
#scarcitymindset
#DVsurvivor
#CSAsurvivor
#scarcity
#abuse
#control
#patriarchy
#eatthepatriarchy
#capitalismkillsbraincells
#captialismkills
#competition
#wickedlizzie
#essay
#substack

Still resentful of every single therapist or mental health worker I've ever interacted with - which were A LOT over the course of 20 years - for only ever encouraging bravery in the form of emotional vulnerability. If that. Some discouraged me or even got mad at me for expressing feelings.

Yes, emotional vulnerability is important. And it is bravery. But we also need to be encouraged to be brave via actions. To stand up to abusers. To organise politically. To fight oppression and climate crises.

I only started becoming brave after I stopped therapy. And my mental health is improving more rapidly than ever.

#mh #mentalHealth #therapy #psychiatry #antiPsychiatry #madPride #madness #trauma #traumaRecovery #csaSurvivor

Btw wir beide sind in dieser Lage gelandet, weil wir vor häuslicher Gewalt geflohen sind und von polizei und staatlichen Stellen und Therapeutinnen und Psychiatrie im Stich gelassen wurden bzw die de facto Täterschutz betreiben. Mal subtil mit Vorschlägen, es doch lieber mit gewaltfreier Kommunikation zu versuchen statt sich von Tätern abzugrenzen, mal ganz platt mit der Weigerung, Beweise zu sichern, weil ich bei der Vorstellung, vor fremden Schergen des Patriarchats (Bullen) mein Herz auszukrempeln lieber verrückt geworden bin. Und das war auch gut so. Also verlassen wir uns auf sowas nicht mehr, sondern setzen lieber auf menschliche Solidarität, inspiriert von der Rotzfrechen Asphaltkultur (http://rak-treffen.de) und dem spirit von Punk im Allgemeinen.

#abusesurvivor #häuslichegewalt #gewalt #domesticviolence #csa #csasurvivor #acab #abuse #gaslighting #patriarchy #rapeculture #mutualaid #solidarity #madpride #punk

No matter how hard things might get, one thing is clear. My abusers don't get to have access to any parts of me anymore. My parts deserve to actually come home from all the hell we still continue to go through. We made it this far. We're not stopping now.

#trauma #ramcoa #DID #OSDD #CPTSD #CSAsurvivor #healing #selfCare

So much stuff has been falling into place ever since us external parts have learned we're OA survivors. So much stuff makes sense. Today, all the confusion, conflicting feelings, & even pain, is understood to have been a part of programming I've gone through. I half-joked with my therapist, "Gee, why is self-care so difficult? 🤔 What a mystery." Now we understand this more than either of us ever have before.

#trauma #ramcoa #DID #OSDD #CSAsurvivor #CPTSD

The stuff I've been processing so far is some of the toughest I've ever dealt with. It's a testament to how far we've come, and how much work we've done previously. But wow, is it bananas. I'd like to hear from other #RAMCOA #survivors on what it's like to cope and deal with the consequences some day. But in the meantime, my focus is largely on #boringSelfCare.

#trauma #DID #CPTSD #OEA #CSA #CSAsurvivor