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Ken Venturi
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Depression is Real - A True Story From a Happy Guy
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I found why I was happier as a kid : I was disassembling a ton of stuff around the house to see how it worked. I miss that.

Yesterday, I disassembled a broken air fryer and a washing machine. It took a long time but it gives me a great insight on how these work. It’s not super complex but it’s still an interesting setup.

Every little part has its place and use: like a good working team.

Seriously, the air fryer was the most interesting as I already fixed the washing machine too many times so it wasn’t as mesmerizing.

I think I’ll disassemble more appliances for fun (and eventually sell parts or rebuild something)

Creating/building and understanding how something works are probably one of my greatest joys in life.

#dobetter #creativity #fun #joy #becomebetter

I know it sounds obvious but I never thought shutting off most #notifications on my phone would make me happier THAT FAST!!!

Seriously, at the end of the first day I was already calmer. Now, it’s been 2 weeks and I don’t think I wanna go back the way it was.

The calming effect of not feeding #fomo every day is rewarding.

Also, I listen to very aggressive #heavymetal all day lately and, to me, it has a calming effect as well and whenever I feel like yelling, the song is already there for me for that so I can feel supported (not necessarily validated but heard in a way). It is there to help me process certain emotions instead of lashing out and I like it better that way.

Maybe at some point I won’t need all this to help me during the day but at least I know I have a system that helps.

What’s your “system”?

#selfhelp #becomebetter #dobetter #help #music #stress #anxiety

I understand better now why we say that to help resolve this and that problem, we’re told many times we should go on #therapy , we need to talk through the issues and do so to someone actively listening.

We don’t necessarily have someone like that near us so it makes trying to help ourselves way harder for that matter, I think.

At least, that’s the way I understand this 😉 what do you think?

#activelistening #dobetter #becomebetter #dothework

When you have an idea and put it out there, there’s a high chance it’ll be criticized or ridiculed.

What’s important to me (because I don’t know all of you 😉) is to get it known, especially if it’s a good one, because regardless of the opinions of others trying to shut you up for whatever reason (jealousy, a bad day, not feeling well), there might be one person who needs to hear it and maybe benefit from it.

Judging your idea by the first opinion you get of it isn’t enough: you need a sample and ideally a good discussion that goes with it and not simply a “it will never work” or “that’s just stupid”.

The limited knowledge others have of or about that idea can be caused by many things: maybe you didn’t explain well enough or maybe they just don’t know enough about the subject.

Not every interaction is out of malice (although some will be). You can’t/shouldn’t just stop after one comment.

And if your idea turns out to be crap? Well, at least you tried and found something that didn’t work after all and now you know more so you still win.

Feeling down and depressed can be easily triggered by this kind of situation so that’s why I hope someone can find some positivity in that message.

#feelingdown #depression #depressed #ideas #comments #dobetter #becomebetter #mentalhealth #yougotthis

When you’re trying to convince yourself about something, be sure it’s for the right reason.

For example, if you’re not helping someone to get up in the morning, is it because you want them to be able to help themselves or is it because you want to be able to point a finger at them afterwards?

The line is pretty thin and we too often justify our actions with noble gestures but we’re likely just in it for our personal gain.

#askyourself #becomebetter #dobetter #dothework #ego #help #helpothers #mindset

This one might sound trivial to some but to me it’s a trip outside the comfort zone.

I went to get my son at work like I normally would but this time I went earlier than usual. Nothing too crazy so far.

I normally park closer of the entrance and this time there’s no available spot so I park a bit further. Again, nothing unusual, just normal.

I tend to just park forward but this time I decided to just back in the parking spot because I was using my truck. I don’t like to park that way but it’s simpler since I’ll see my son going out the door. Again, just pratical, right?

Now comes the interesting part and why I started with this introduction: there’s someone parked on my left and this person just backed away and went for gas in front of where I am. I notice the hood of the car seems open or maybe not properly locked. Normally, I’d just let it go as maybe it’s just broken or the person might not like to be approached by a stranger or whatever reason I tell myself so I don’t have to get out of the truck and go talk to this person.

I decide to just go because this could be dangerous and if this person is annoyed or blows me off or finds me ridiculous, it doesn’t matter. I put my anxiety aside and go. I politely say I think the hood might be unlocked and sure enough it was.

All this to say that if I have been late to pickup my son or parked the other way or in the usual spot or I didn’t decide to go talk to this person, this might’ve turned out differently.

I don’t say this for glory or pats on the back. No.

The crucial part to remember in all of this is I decided to go and talk even when anxiety and pure laziness told me otherwise: just by talking to someone, you might be able to prevent something bad to happen.

Act when you see something wrong instead of simply think it’s not your job. Safety is the job of everyone.

#safety #security #anxiety #overthink #overthinking #dothework #becomebetter

After a month of being diagnosed with adhd, I’ve seen so many things change around and in my life.

I already mentioned a few of them but to add to that, lately I’ve seen my weeks go by a bit slower than it used to and I can complete more projects as well which helps.

I still don’t have more motivation to do stuff and that’s alright as I’m not looking for that exactly: I’m more focused on taking the first step.

One strange thing is I’m not seeking more and more wisdom outside by the way of books or seminars or online videos about self-help. This feels strange as I’ve been reading and listening to various content for over a decade now. I know it’s not because I don’t have anything else to change but I think I’m not seeking this “ideal” self I idolized for so long and I’m just trying to do my best instead. I think I’m really comparing myself to myself now and that’s what I always needed.

I think I’m making more progress now and THAT is a great step forward.

#adhd #becomebetter #dobetter #perfectionism #selfhelp #bebetter #takethestep #dothework #procrastination