Pulse kicks, or: Breath locks

One faint buzz hums
out through the dark
pulse kicks hard once
breath locks in place
I know that name
electricity

W3 poetry prompt

For this week’s W3, AJ Wilson encourages us to write about a sudden or dramatic moment, like a storm, a shock, or a big realization. The poem must be 5 to 8 lines long, and nearly every word has to be only one syllable. We may use exactly one longer word, but it must appear as the very last word in the poem.

Let’s write poetry together!

When it comes to partnership, some humans can make their lives alone – it’s possible. But creatively, it’s more like painting: you can’t just use the same colours in every painting. It’s just not an option. You can’t take the same photograph every time and live with art forms with no differences.

Ben Harper (b. 1969)

Would you like to create poetry with me and have a completed poem of yours featured here at the Skeptic’s Kaddish? I am very excited to have launched the ‘Poetry Partners’ initiative and am looking forward to meeting and creating with you… Check it out!

#Anticipation #Anxiety #Arousal #Correspondence #Excitement #Interaction #Nostalgia #Poem #Poetry #Syllables #W3

This article reports on a study where writing brief erotic fantasies at home twice weekly for four weeks increased sexual desire and pleasure while reducing sexual distress and cognitive distractions.

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The content explores how guided sexual fantasy can influence attention, emotion, and subjective sexual experience, offering insights into mechanisms of arousal and well-being that may interest readers of psychology.

Article Title: A simple at-home sexual fantasy exercise increases pleasure and reduces distress

Link to PsyPost Article: https://nolinkpreview.com/www.psypost.org/a-simple-at-home-sexual-fantasy-exercise-increases-pleasure-and-reduces-distress/

#psychology #sexuality #sexualdesire #sexualwellbeing #cognitiveattention #imagery #mentalimagery #arousal #sexualdistress #fantasy

This article explains how sexual arousal can narrow attention and lead people to misinterpret ambiguous dating cues as genuine interest. It reports four studies showing that arousal increases optimistic interpretations of mixed signals, but not when rejection is clear.

This topic is of interest to psychology enthusiasts because it illuminates how physiological states shape perception and social judgment, highlighting the interplay between arousal, attention, and interpretation of social signals.

Article Title: Sexual arousal creates “tunnel vision” that makes ambiguous dating cues look like interest

Link to PsyPost Article: https://nolinkpreview.com/www.psypost.org/sexual-arousal-creates-tunnel-vision-that-makes-ambiguous-dating-cues-look-like-interest/

#DatingPsychology #Arousal #Perception #SocialCognition #Ambiguity #RejectionCues #TunnelVision #RomanticInterest #ExperimentalPsychology #Signaling

The States That Will Not Be Commanded

There is a class of human experience that answers to no direct order. You cannot tell yourself to fall asleep. The instruction arrives at a locked door. Sleep refuses the simple transaction of command and execution. Instead, it assembles itself once certain conditions are present, and those conditions include, strangely enough, the act of picturing yourself already inside the state you are trying to enter. Lying down begins it. Closed eyes continue it. Imagining yourself asleep, entering the self who has already arrived, completes the condition, and only then does sleep agree to appear.

This is stranger than it first appears. The imagination precedes the fact. A fiction makes the reality possible. Rehearsal of the self-in-the-state must happen before the state itself will consent to arrive. Once you notice this mechanism operating in sleep, you begin to see it everywhere in human life, running underneath experiences we mistakenly believed we commanded outright.

Aldous Huxley named the pattern in The Perennial Philosophy and called it the law of reversed effort, a phrase Alan Watts later carried into wider circulation. Viktor Frankl, working from the clinic rather than the lecture hall, called it paradoxical intention, and used it to treat patients whose anxieties had swallowed them whole. The insomniac who tries hardest to sleep stays awake longest. The speaker who strains to stop stammering stammers worst. Frankl’s counterintuitive instruction was to command the symptom itself. Try to stay awake. Try to stammer. The paradox broke the grip because it acknowledged a humble fact about voluntary will: the target state cannot be seized. It must be invited, imagined, allowed.

Taoists arrived at the same recognition two thousand years earlier and called it wu-wei, the action that is not action, the doing that happens when the doer gets out of the way. An archer who aims too hard misses. A calligrapher who grips the brush too firmly produces a dead line. Skill of that order lives in a zone the conscious will cannot enter, and the only approach is to imagine yourself having already arrived.

Consider sexual arousal. The physiological response is famously resistant to command. It answers to imagined scenarios, to remembered encounters, to anticipated scenes. Masters and Johnson built an entire clinical practice around this recognition, and their cure for performance anxiety, sensate focus, works by replacing effort with imagined sensation. A man instructed to perform often cannot. The same man, invited to picture the experience without obligation, finds his body following his mind into the state. Arousal answers to conjuring.

Consider crying on cue, the classical actor’s problem. Stanislavski solved it through affective memory. The tears come by indirection. You imagine the dog you lost when you were nine, and water arrives because the body has been invited to the feeling rather than ordered to produce it. Meryl Streep has described her process in interviews as a summoning of remembered feeling. Daniel Day-Lewis has described his as an inhabitation sustained across months. Neither description sounds like command. The actor imagines the self-in-grief, and grief supplies the water.

Consider the act of belief. Pascal, sitting in his Pensées alongside the famous wager, offered an argument about habituation that has been quietly underestimated for centuries. For those seeking faith, he advised acting as if they already believed. Kneel. Take the holy water. Say the prayers. Imagine yourself as a believer, and belief may arrive as a secondary effect of the performance. William James extended the line in “The Will to Believe” and argued that many truths about ourselves only become true after we have imagined them as true. Courage is one such truth. Generosity is another. Love, perhaps most of all.

Athletes at the top of their disciplines understand this mechanism as technical knowledge. Jack Nicklaus, in Golf My Way, said he never hit a shot, even in practice, without first seeing the ball’s flight in his mind. Swimmers rehearse the race in imagination with such precision that brain scans show neural activation patterns overlapping substantially with actual performance. The body runs the course in miniature before it runs the course in fact. Physical execution follows the mental simulation because the state has already been entered once, invisibly, and needs only to be entered again with flesh attached.

Hypnosis is perhaps the cleanest case. An unwilling subject cannot be forced into the hypnotic state, and even a willing one cannot seize it by direct will. The subject must imagine entering the state, going down the staircase, growing heavy in the chair, and that imagining is the mechanism itself. Imaging studies by David Spiegel and colleagues at Stanford, along with related work by Oakley and Halligan, suggest that hypnotic suggestion produces neural patterns distinct from ordinary pretending, patterns more closely aligned with genuine perceptual and motor processing. Imagination has done something to the body. Fiction has produced a physiological effect the subject did not will.

Creative inspiration operates by the same architecture. You cannot command an idea to arrive. You can imagine yourself as receptive, empty, waiting, and the idea tends to arrive into that imagined vacancy. Keats called this negative capability, the capacity to sit inside uncertainty without grabbing for resolution. A poet imagines the listening state, and the poem walks into the room. Composers describe the same choreography. Mathematicians describe it too, with Poincaré’s famous account of the solution arriving as he stepped onto the bus at Coutances. He had imagined himself receptive for weeks. The solution waited until it found him properly prepared to receive it.

Grief resolution belongs in this same family, though we rarely recognize it. Bereaved people move through grief by imagining themselves on the other side of it. Picturing a future morning when the first thought lands somewhere other than the absence. Picturing the moment when the dead person’s name can be spoken without collapse. These acts of imagination are how integration proceeds. George Bonanno’s resilience research and Pauline Boss’s work on ambiguous loss both describe this imaginative prefiguration as the actual mechanism of healing. The sequence matters here. Picturing a survivable future comes first, and resolution begins to assemble around the picture.

At the collective level, Benedict Anderson’s argument about imagined communities rides the same rail. A nation exists first as an imaginative act performed by millions of strangers simultaneously. Citizens picture themselves as a “we” before the institutional “we” coheres. American colonists had to imagine being Americans before they could act as Americans. Thomas Kuhn made a parallel argument about scientific revolutions. A new paradigm must be imaginatively entertained, played with speculatively, inhabited as a thought experiment, before it can be adopted and tested. Discovery through accumulation alone misses the interior work that makes discovery possible. Science imagines a world in which the anomalies make sense, and then searches for evidence that the imagined world is the actual one.

Here is the argument this pattern makes against one of the most persistent myths in the modern self-help industry. The doctrine of pure willpower, of steel discipline, of command-and-execute personal transformation, is largely false where it matters most. The states we most want to inhabit are precisely the states that refuse to be seized. Love, sleep, creative insight, courage, calm, sexual pleasure, athletic flow, artistic voice, faith, grief’s resolution, recovery from trauma, the dissolution of anxiety, the emergence of a new political identity, all of these operate by invitation rather than by conquest. A hard clamp on such a state accelerates its evasion. Accurate, patient rehearsal of the self already inside it increases the odds of arrival, because the state recognizes the address it has been given.

This observation is a claim about where real labor lives, rather than a brief for passivity. The imagination itself is labor. Stanislavski’s affective memory takes years to develop. Nicklaus’s visualization was the product of thousands of hours of prior experience that had furnished his imagination with accurate material to draw on. Negative capability, for the poet, demands a difficult kind of vigilance. Picturing a survivable future, for the mourner, takes courage most days. Real work is being performed in all these cases. That work simply lives somewhere other than where the popular literature keeps telling us to look. It lives in the imagining, in furnishing the mind with a vivid enough rehearsal that the body and the world will follow the script.

There is a political dimension to this that deserves attention. Populations that cannot imagine a different arrangement of their lives will not produce one. Authoritarian regimes understand this perfectly and invest heavily in controlling imagination itself, in prescribing what may be pictured, in criminalizing the mental rehearsal of alternatives. The censor knows the law of reversed effort by heart, and knows in particular that the imagined state of freedom must be interrupted before the political state of freedom can be prevented. Organizers and artists, working from the other direction, understand that their first task is to make the unfamiliar picturable. Once a people can picture themselves free, the mechanics of becoming free start to assemble around the picture.

The craft implication for writers, for dramatists, for anyone whose work involves summoning states in other people’s minds, is that we are running an imagination-furnishing enterprise whose surface resembles persuasion. A good novel gives the reader a vivid enough picture of the inside of another life that the feeling assembles itself inside the reader. A good play stages grief with such precision that the audience’s own grief, resting dormant, recognizes the invitation and walks forward. Argument alone has never moved anyone who was going to stay put. The form of the work becomes a staircase. Descent happens inside the audience’s own imagination. The hypnotic principle and the aesthetic principle are the same principle.

Which returns us to sleep, where we began. The oldest ritual of the human body is the rehearsal that makes becoming possible. Every night of your life you practice the technique that governs almost everything else you will ever want to enter. You picture yourself arriving, and arrival follows the picture. The repetition is so automatic it escapes notice. Seeing the principle for the first time reorders the interior map. The question that has held your energy for years, the question of how to force yourself into the state you want, reveals itself as badly posed. Sharper questions take shape around what you had been missing. What does the inside of that state actually feel like, in specific sensory detail? What would I need to picture accurately enough for my body and my circumstances to follow the picture into becoming?

Less effort, applied through better imagination, answers more of what we want in a human life than the heavier strategies that continue to dominate our self-improvement literature. That reweighting, once genuinely made, reorders a great deal.

#activeImagination #actor #archer #arousal #belief #command #dreaming #effect #human #imagination #medicine #mind #pascal #problem #psychology #sleep #states #theatre #thought
Dacryphilia: Understanding Arousal from Tears and Crying MISTRESS MARA MENOCI

Dacryphilia is a form of sexual fetish or kink in which an individual experiences arousal from tears or crying. This can involve watching someone cry, making

MISTRESS MARA MENOCI

Okay, this video at least starts not shit...

Any comments on that?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrNhJ5YtUdg

#Sexuality #attraction #women #men #attraction #safety #arousal

The Science Behind How Women Become Horny

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Does #wakefulness induced by pharmacological or non-pharma routes involve different #neurons? This study of whole-brain activation patterns in mouse shows that solriamfetol, modafinil & non-pharma #arousal recruit overlapping but distinct subcortical populations @PLOSBiology https://plos.io/4soFNVK
Pharmacological and non-pharmacological methods of inducing wakefulness activate distinct neural populations in the mouse brain

Wakefulness arises from multiple neuronal systems but it is unclear whether the same or different neurons are activated during pharmacological or non-pharmacological intervention. This study uses the TRAP2 mouse model to examine whole-brain activation patterns and shows that solriamfetol, modafinil and nonpharmacological arousal recruit overlapping but distinct subcortical populations.

A question every working girl gets asked #65

How do you make sure your pussy is wet and ready for action when you have a client at shot notice and your not in the mood❓

The answer is just use the age old technique of getting your clit up and your slit slimy by slapping it into arousal 🖐️ 💦 😺 ❗

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🧠 New paper by Huang et al.: By using #pharmacological #fMRI and dynamic #connectome-based #PredictiveModeling, they show how #cortisol reshapes whole-brain #NetworkDynamics during emotional memory encoding. Trial-level analyses reveal distinct but increasingly integrated #arousal and #memory networks under #stress, supporting a hormonally driven "memory formation mode".

🌍 https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adz4143

#Neuroscience #CognitiveNeuroscience #BrainNetworks #CogSci