Alana Queer (elle/they/them)May 15, 2025
My contribution to the International Day of the Family:

Abolish the family. A survivor’s perspective

The family is sold as a safe space, a place of love and mutual care, which is not supported by the data. Are there alternatives? How do we bring our experiences of mutual support networks to the centre of society?

https://alanaqueer.es/content/abolish-family-survivors-perspective

#family #abolishthefamily #childabuse #polyamor #relationshipanarchy #mentalhealth
Abolish the family. A survivor’s perspective

The family is sold as a safe space, a place of love and mutual care, which is not supported by the data. Are there alternatives? How do we bring our experiences of mutual support networks to the centre of society?

Alana Queer
Anti.Dec 23, 2024
So uhm, i made a snow sculpture of the aubergine emoji 🍆 to promote my latest DJ mix:

[Explicit] Porn 4 Yer Ears – Kinkygrindah

https://pieceoplastic.com/2024/12/21/explicit-porn-4-yer-ears-kinkygrindah/

Wishing everyone some kinky fun during the most depressing holidays (if that's what they enjoy)

#SexuallyExplicit #DJMix #KinkyHolidays #AbolishXmas #AbolishTheFamily #SnowScupture #Emoji
[Explicit] Porn 4 Yer Ears – Kinkygrindah

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Show threadAnti. 🐘Dec 24, 2023

Happy international #AbolishTheFamily day.

https://chaos.social/@Hilo/111634575625380912

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Frohen Internationalen Tag zur Abschaffung der Familie 🌟✨❤️‍🔥💪🏼🎉🎈🎊🧨🪩

chaos.social
Anti. 🐘Dec 12, 2023

"The internet, the very thing you might be using to avoid your family right now."

We told our families, that we would be away on vacation for the holidays. For various reasons it's not going to be possible. But we won't tell any of them, that we are home. He he.

#AbolishTheFamily #LoveTheFam

Show threadTrekhausen (she/her)Nov 5, 2023

The #RadicalCommunalCare group who led on the above letter aims to be a network - with it currently connecting people across Europe - for disabled, chronically ill people & their partners where communal care can be discussed from an anarchistic/feminist viewpoint, but also put into practice. We have a Signal chat for exchange of information & support in the day-to-day & we aim to meet every 2-4 weeks via Signal video - with pacing - for thematic discussions (for instance: #MutualAid #AbolishTheFamily) alongside support & solidarity. It is an #AntiAbleist #AntiCapitalist #AntiFascist & #Intersectional space.

Being part of this group has had such a positive impact on me in a very short time. Despite being very introverted & also struggling with intense social anxiety - made worse by my #LongCovid & #OCD - from the first moment I got involved I have felt at ease, safe, welcome & heard. I have seen my confidence increase, my ability to advocate for myself - especially in terms of the #pandemic & my Long-Covid - improve. It's a place of solidarity & comradeship, approached from an intersectional #anarchist perspective.

If this sounds like something you want to be part of, help co-create & grow as a group & space, please get in touch!

#CovidIsNotOver #Anarchism #Disability #DisabilityJustice

Show threadfr3nzin3Oct 9, 2023
@Trekhausen A couple of incidents with my family, among other things also accelerated through covid, allowed me in an emotional distance to see the patriarchal, capitalist and misogynist core of it all. In this unfiltered view freed from fear #AbolishTheFamily makes indeed so much sense! Especially when it comes to care-work – in gender typical expectation my role has always been the one ‘who (has to) care’.
Show threadTrekhausen (she/her)Oct 9, 2023
Also, how much shit do people get away with and are not held to genuine account because "they are family". I have taken crap from people in my non-chosen family I would never take from someone who isn’t (well mostly never, after years of unlearning) because, hey it's my [insert family member] and I have been socialised since young to embrace and know my [insert family member, especially immediate such as mum] no matter what. That's abusive, yet has a powerful hold over me. The individualistic, atomised and privatised construction of the family - whilst part of a wider fabric of state control and authority - is central to that abuse. It shouldn't come down to whether we are 'lucky enough' to have a 'supportive' family or whatever. And even if we are 'lucky enough', there are often demands put on people within families to meet societal expectations and demands reflecting and reinforcing inequalities and oppression - for instance, views around unpaid caring relating to patriarchy. A radical, collective and communal approach to care is what we need instead. #AbolishTheFamily #AbolishTheState #AbolishMoney
Trekhausen (she/her)Oct 9, 2023
The more I learn about the arguments for why we need to #AbolishTheFamily the more I am like, yes this makes total sense. For instance, the family as a unit individualises socio-economic-political and sociological factors - primarily the systemic and inherent problems of capitalism - as something the family has to deal with, with 'support' from institutions that help with reinforcing and ensuring state authority and control - such as schools or the legal system. How many times do we hear people say they did things "for my children" or "for my family", which is even worse when justifying actions that have negative impacts on others. I mean it's so often a plot device in shows and movies. But if we talk about it and act on it at the unit of the family, it means we are less likely to look for collective means of resistance and organising - like #MutualAid and #RadicalCommunalCare - that challenges the state and capital and related systems of oppression. It demonstrates how central the family unit is to capitalism.
Anti. 🐘Oct 6, 2023

By all intents & purposes i probably now have to be considered to be agoraphobic. Not because i hate people, on the contrary. But because i literally fear them, have lost all trust in them. The pandemic has made it clearer than ever before, they will not keep me safe, not even the people i considered to be my friends, not even my family.

Best to just hide to avoid most of them. Best to build dedicated networks for online support with like-minded & -abled folks.

#AbolishTheFamily #CommunalCare

Anti. 🐘Jul 9, 2023

"Niemand anders «wird dich mit höherer Wahrscheinlichkeit ausrauben, drangsalieren, erpressen, manipulieren, schlagen oder ungewollt anfassen als die Familie. Folgerichtig sollte die Ankündigung, jemanden ‹wie Familie› zu behandeln, als Drohung verstanden werden.»"

#AbolishTheFamily

Manifest: Mit Hegel gegen die Familie https://www.woz.ch/!5BFS2V6BXVB2

Manifest: Mit Hegel gegen die Familie

Wo wird man mit höchster Wahrscheinlichkeit geschlagen, erpresst, manipuliert oder ungewollt angefasst? Die Familie sei ein dunkler Ort und gehöre abgeschafft, argumentiert die Feministin Sophie Lewis.