If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

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Gotta watch out for the ground, man. Most of the time, it's not on the level.

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I despise unsolicited advice, yet there are some people in my life who feel free to give their opinions and takes without thinking, "Do I really need to say this?"

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A man tried to fix a female golfer's swing. He didn't know she was a PGA pro.

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1. Don't post anything from sources that those you're trying to reach can't access. At least put up a screenshot of anything with a paywall or login, alongside the bare link. And then do alt text.

2. Don't consider yourself a radical if you are more wrapped up in rhethoric and argument than protest and sabotage.

3. Have some fun. Get out and see people who disappoint you. Be of use to the part of society who needs it.

Ready!

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