The Intellectual Smoothie: Blending Minds of Descartes, Freud, and Jung
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When you screw up, here's how to handle it.
1. Understand your role in it. No blame, no shame, no guilt, no victimization. You have to understand what you did and why you did it. Where's the wound? What's the behavior you're still using that's not working for you? What's the change you need to make?
2. Own it. When the opportunity is present, apologize. Own it with the other person or people involved. Take responsibility for it and do the best you can to correct it, whatever that looks like.
3. Don't beat yourself up!!! Do not take out the hammer. You're human. You make mistakes. As long as you can do the first two, you won't make the same mistake again because you'll understand what happened and you'll fix it within yourself.
Beating yourself up doesn't prevent you from doing it again. Healing yourself does.
Don't let your mind have a field day. Pay attention to what your mind is doing. It's actually trying to defend you by making you feel bad. If you already feel bad then the people around you can't hurt you more. It's a weird defense mechanism that doesn't totally work.
The apology is important to the people around you, honor that and give it when you can.
What you do with it within yourself is more important because that's what determines what happens the next time the scenario shows up. It will repeat so that you can correct your behavior.
If you beat yourself up, the next time it happens you're reacting from pain. You won't be hurting anybody else but yourself at that point. That doesn't work either.
Taking responsibility for yourself via your own thoughts and feelings is how you deal with mistakes when they happen.
They will happen. We're human. It's just how it works.
Love to all.
Della
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