It's possible to go through many labels without yourself changing fundamentally along the way.
We might have a lot more words today to describe ourselves, but none of them are perfect. "Self discovery" can be primarily a struggle with language.
Keep trying stuff out for as long as that helps you.
The way you use labels will be different than how otherd use those very same labels.
You might use a set of labels that some view as incompatible. Your definition of a term (or interpretation of it) could be fundamentally opposed to how another understands it. There are possibly endless opportunities for confusion.
Labesl are as varied as those that use them, and that's a good thing. It shows that labels exist to serve you, not the other way around.
It's okay to have figured things out later in life, or to still be figuring it out.
It's fine to still be experimenting well past your 30s, 60s, even 90s and beyond.
It's what life is about. As long as you're alive there will always be new questions and new adventures.
No matter what steps you're taking to live as your true self, you would probably like to skip to the end right now. Most of us would rather wake up and have the coming out, label picking, changing, surgery, etc. parts magically complete.
However, this is the first time you will take these steps. You might not come out again to certain people, go through the first changes from hormones, or experience the excitement of the right label quite like this again.
As difficult as it is, these are powerful moments. Try to acknowledge the wonder in them while they last.
Clearly, there are people who will use your existence for their own ends. They don't care about you. They only care about stoking their anger.
So, as much as you're able, stop caring about them! The love you cultivate for yourself is far more important.
"Influencers" may seem like they speak for all lgbtq/queer people, but the only voice they have is their own.
There are many people out there busy living their lives instead of stirring up debate about who is a "real" this or a "threat" to that on the internet.
Nuance and variety are everywhere in the world. Go out and live it.
People change labels all the time. It's a fact that says nothing about those labels, only that people had choices.
But you need to know about a choice to be able to pick it, which is why it's good to be open about your own journey (if you're comfortable).
There's no shame in change. Help people learn.
It's good to be different. It's good for people to have many perspectives, qualities, strengths, needs, and joys.
Life on Earth sustains itself through variety, and so do people.
Wearing pride colors is important, especially now.
It lets others know that you're safe. It shows the world where you stand. It makes people like us real.
You may not see the results, but your bravery will have ripples in the world.
Even if you choose a well-known label, you will still have to discover how you in particular use it.
Labels help you describe yourself. They don't (and usually shouldn't) tell you how to behave.
You're free to wear them in your own way.
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