Speciesism, racism, sexism, ableism, ageism, queermisia etc are all part of the same ideology of domination and supremacy and exploitation "they are objectively below us and it is our natural right to exploit and discard them and they have no right to fight back"

When you look at carnism through this lens it becomes obvious why anarchism and veganism are part of the same ideology that exists in opposition to domination in opposition to supremacy and in opposition to exploitation

#Speciesism #Racism #Sexism #Ableism #Ageism #Cisnormativity #Heteronormativity #Mononormativity #Carnism #Anarchism #Veganism #Veganarchism #QueerAnarchim #AnarchaFeminism #Queermisia

Monopoly is when you switch between monogamy and polyamory, right?
 

#monopoly #monogamy #MonoNormativity #PolyAmory #queer

"People in non-monogamous relationships are as happy as monogamous couples, but…

... there's a serious catch."

The "serious catch" is society mononormatvity. Society likes to look down, and discriminate against people who live under a consensual non-monogamy arrangement.

#polyamory #nonmonogamy #mononormativity

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/people-in-non-monogamous-relationships-are-as-happy-as-monogamous-couples-but/

Interesting developments.

My bf came to me last Friday telling me about his dating prospect facing a crisis. I said I'd gladly help.

I started helping last night. I listened to the guy's story, asked questions, etc. Today, I'm searching for resources online to try to help provide clarity.

"Wait... didn't you say he's your bf dating prospect?"

Yes.

"Shouldn't... you know... be mortal enemies?"

Heck no. I don't mind my bf being interested in other folks, as long as I'm not neglected. And him being interested in other folks is not ispo facto neglect.

The notion that this guy and I should be enemies is highly mononormative.

#polyamory #mononormativity

"Why Open Relationships Are A Bad Idea — No Matter How Good They Sound"

I skimmed the article. The argument is mostly like this:

"I cannot generate compersion. Therefore, opening up a relationship would be torture for me, and thus, no one else can do it. Kthxbai!"

#polyamory #cnm #enm #nonmonogamy #compersion #mononormativity

https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/open-relationships-mistake

"Unconventional relationship holds answers to Florida woman's violent murder"

Yes, CBS, the crux of the matter was that the victim was part of a throuple. Sure. 🙄

Thanks for the mononormative reading here, CBS. This is really stellar journalism.

"Hmm... they were a throuple... and I've never even been in a threesome. Yep, the throuple must hold the key to this story. Never mind the violence."

I cannot wait until you release the story of a woman who murdered her husband because he farted too much and call it:

"Conventional relationship holds answers to Maryland man's violent murder"

#throuple #polyamory #JournalisticBullshit #CBS #journalism #mononormativity

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/aileen-seiden-florida-throuple-murder-investigation-zach-abell-christina-araujo-48-hours/

I just want to point out that it is not the case that when someone is married to someone else and yet dates another person, it is necessarily cheating.

If you automatically take this as cheating, then you are imposing a patriarchal view, and a mononormative view onto the situation. It is up to you to inform yourself whether it is in fact cheating.

Polyamory is a thing.

Allowing your spouse to date, even without the structure of polyamory, is also a thing.

A specific case came to my attention, and the media was really quick to point out, and without any investigation as to the details of the situation, that cheating happened. I'm not going to tell you what situation it was, because it is actually a complete mess of "he said, she said, they said, etc." but I don't like the media jumping to conclusions based on patriarchal and mononormative views.

#patriarchy #mononormativity #cheating #marriage #polyamory #news #NewsMedia

Being Unattached Is Not Something I Need To Make Peace With

If being unattached works for you, great. It ain't working for me.

I’m going to start with a comment about the terminology I’m using. I’ve settled on unattached to indicate a state...

#YourAutisticLife #AutisticWriters #single #unattached #pansexuality #polyamory #mononormativity #heteronormativity #society

https://open.substack.com/pub/yourautisticlife/p/being-unattached-is-not-something?r=2hhuwi&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.