When a Friend Chooses Everyone Else’s Version of the Story But Yours

There is a particular kind of disappointment that sticks with you longer than most. It is not always the loudest betrayal. It is not always the most dramatic falling out. Sometimes it is something much simpler. Someone you considered a friend hears an accusation, hears a rumor, hears a misunderstanding, and instead of coming to you and asking what happened, they immediately decide you are guilty. Maybe they hear it from another friend. Maybe they hear it from a group of people. Maybe they […]

https://jaimedavid.blog/2026/05/31/18/11/17/analysis/jaimedavid327/11106/when-a-friend-chooses-everyone-elses-version-of-the-story-but-yours/

“The fact is that very few of us know what words mean; fewer still take the trouble to enquire. We calmly, we carelessly assume that our minds are identical with that of the writer, at least on that point; and then we wonder that there should be misunderstandings! The fact is (again!) that usually we don’t really want to know; it is so very much easier to drift down the river of discourse, ‘lazily, lazily, drowsily, drowsily, In the noonday sun.'” https://library.hrmtc.com/2026/05/14/the-fact-is-that-very-few-of-us-know-what-words-mean-fewer-still-take-the-trouble-to-enquire-we-calmly-we-carelessly-assume-that-our-minds-are-identical-with-that-of-the-writer-at-least-on-that/ #aleisterCrowley #assume #book #calmly #carelessly #discourse #donTReallyWant #downTheRiver #drift #drowsily #enquire #fact #fewerStill #identicalWithThat #know #lazily #magickWithoutTears #misunderstandings #noondaySun #ourMinds #quote #soVeryMuchEasier #takeTheTrouble #toKnow #veryFewOfUs #whatWordsMean #wonder #writer
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While I do overall tend to prefer when people agree with me than when they do not, what is even more important is: is it clear to me that  they understand what I am saying, and do I understand what they are saying? Misunderstandings can be more frustrating than simple disagreement.

A quotation from Goethe

And I have again observed, my dear friend, in this trifling affair, that misunderstandings and neglect occasion more mischief in the world than even malice and wickedness. At all events, the two latter are of less frequent occurrence.
 
[Und ich habe, mein Lieber, wieder bei diesem kleinen Geschäft gefunden, dass Missverständnisse und Trägheit vielleicht mehr Irrungen in der Welt machen als List und Bosheit. Wenigstens sind die beiden letzteren gewiss seltener.]

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) German poet, statesman, scientist
Die Leiden des jungen Werthers [The Sorrows of Young Werther], “Letter from May 4th” (1774) [tr. Taylor]

More about (and translations of) this quote: wist.info/goethe-johann/6749/

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Goethe, Johann von - Die Leiden des jungen Werthers [The Sorrows of Young Werther], "Letter from May 4th" (1774) [tr. Taylor] | WIST Quotations

And I have again observed, my dear friend, in this trifling affair, that misunderstandings and neglect occasion more mischief in the world than even malice and wickedness. At all events, the two latter are of less frequent occurrence. [Und ich habe, mein Lieber, wieder bei diesem kleinen Geschäft gefunden, dass…

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Apparently, CPU utilization is as misunderstood as your uncle's dance moves at weddings 🎉. This article dives into the complexities of CPU usage with all the charm of a tax return tutorial 📉. Clearly, we all needed a 2025 calendar update on what happened in 2017. 🙄
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CPU Utilization is Wrong

CPU Utilization is Wrong

a chair is something agreed to be called chair by those speaking and those listening. linguistic definitions are inherently subjective, affected by the culture and beliefs of those using the words. there is nothing that is, inherently, in its very essence, coded "chair" in our universe; only intentions mutually understood through shared experiences.

this is the flaw in demanding one define womanhood as well, as the definition is altered by both the speaker and listeners' perspectives.

when we don't agree on a definition, we cannot come to a mutual understanding, and that's not a gotcha like terfs would have you believe, it's a trait of human communication even more ubiquitous than mutual understanding.

the fact that people keep arguing about such things makes me think they're either being intentionally disingenous (less likely than my impulse is to assume) or simply don't understand this yet.

i was told one to stop overestimating people. Hanlon's Razor tells us to never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.

ignorance is only an excuse for hostility when it is chosen repeatedly in an observable way when truth is equally accessible; this is very rarely how conversations work, and even less so when discussing things online.


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In a remote or hybrid workplace, misunderstandings multiply. Misconfigured settings, unclear policies, and tech errors can all create moments of frustration. A simple apology from IT or leadership when a rollout goes wrong can de-escalate anger and restore goodwill. Without it, resentment...

https://medium.com/@mrsno1special/when-apologies-improve-security-culture-ce4332ea5999

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When Apologies Improve Security Culture - MrsNo1Special - Medium

In most organizations, security conversations revolve around prevention and response. But what about repair? Apologies — genuine, timely, human apologies — can be a powerful tool for strengthening…

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Tell me what do you see here and why? #ChatGPT enforced #misunderstandings #AI #KI #image