As you're healing from old communication wounds and learning healthier communication patterns, sometimes things will go well between you and another person. 1/2

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Anytime you try a bit of healthy communication and no one has a bad reaction, that is a resounding success. Even if it felt completely ordinary. Even if the other person just said "OK" and moved on. 1/2

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Conflict isn’t the enemy.
Disrespect is.

Healthy confrontation creates understanding, not division.

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I’m Mad at You, So I’m Going to… Go Do the Dishes?

Hey everyone, Tina here. Pull up a chair, grab a snack (preferably something crunchy so you can vent some frustration), and let’s have a real heart-to-heart.

I came across this quote today that hit me like a cold splash of water in the face. It basically said that the biggest rule in a real relationship is that no matter how pissed off you get, you don’t go looking for attention somewhere else. You stay put, you handle it with your person, and you don’t run. If running is easy for you, the quote says, then maybe that “love” wasn’t as deep as you claimed.

Ouch, right? But also… preach.

The Temptation of the “Outside World”

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of a fight with your partner—maybe they forgot the one thing you asked them to do, or maybe they’re just breathing too loudly (we’ve all had those days, don’t lie). Your blood is boiling, and your first instinct is to grab your phone.

In the heat of the moment, the “Outside World” looks real shiny. You think, “I should call my ex’s cousin’s roommate just so someone will tell me I’m right!” or you’re tempted to post a cryptic, moody song lyric on your Story just to see who slides into your DMs with a “U okay, hun?”

The “Cotton Candy” Effect of Outside Validation

It’s easy to look for a quick ego boost when your partner is currently the “villain” in your story. But here is the thing I’ve learned: validation from a stranger is like eating a bag of cotton candy for dinner. It feels sweet for five seconds, and then you just feel sick and empty.

Why “Staying Put” is the Ultimate Act of Love

The quote says “stay put and handle it.” Let’s be honest: staying put is exhausting. It’s much easier to storm out, go to a bar, or start a flirtatious text chain than it is to sit on the couch in uncomfortable silence and eventually say, “Hey, when you said that thing, it really hurt my feelings.”

Facing Conflict Head-On Requires:

• Accountability: Realizing you might have been a bit of a pill, too.
• Vulnerability: Admitting you’re hurt instead of just being “mad.”
• Patience: Not throwing the whole relationship away over a sink full of dirty dishes.

Defining Emotional Proximity as Loyalty

I’ve realized that loyalty isn’t just about not cheating; it’s about emotional proximity. When I’m mad at my person, I might want to launch them into space, but I’m still their person. Loyalty doesn’t have an “off” switch that flips just because I’m annoyed.

If I’m constantly looking for an exit or a backup plan every time we hit a bump, then am I even in the car? Or am I just hovering near the door with a parachute? Real love “don’t move like that.” It stays. It’s messy, it involves some eye-rolling, and it definitely involves some long talks where you both realize you’re being ridiculous. But you do it together.

Fixing the Bridge Instead of Finding a New Island

If you’re reading this and you’re currently “pissed off,” take a breath. Put the phone down. Don’t go looking for a “fix” in someone else’s attention. Go find your person, look them in the eye, and do the hard work of fixing the bridge instead of trying to find a new island.

Trust me, the view from a bridge you built together is way better than being lost at sea.

What’s your “I’m so mad I could…” go-to move? Mine is aggressively vacuuming until the house is spotless and I’m too tired to be angry anymore. Let me know in the comments!

I can still be completely honest and entirely myself, and also notice how I come across to others, what will affect them, and what they need to be okay right now.

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People want to know that they’re making a difference. So when they do something kind for you and you write a thank-you, you’re cluing them in to what difference their time, attention, or effort made. And for most people on the receiving end of that, that feels really good.

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Healthy communication is a more useful goal than trying to emulate neurotypical communications or neurotypical social skills.

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There’s lots of ways to be polite, considerate and kind. It doesn’t have to be the way that neurotypical people do it.

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Healing Communication Wounds Takes Time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIwvXDvB7iU

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