Part of my final project for my pet Doula course. #Mandala #DogMandala #PetDoula #grief #Love #Memorial #Joy #Dog #GriefIsLove #LoveIsGrief
Every so often I push myself to spend a day feeling the ache of my losses. Friends, parents, relationships, children, pets, and past identities that no longer fit.
It's never an easy day, but I find it a necessary exercise for me that keeps my heart open and grateful.
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The Committee Weighs In
Andrea Cohen

I tell my mother
I’ve won the Nobel Prize.

Again? she says. Which
discipline this time?

It’s a little game
we play: I pretend

I’m somebody, she
pretends she isn’t dead

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Grief
By Raymond Carver

Woke up early this morning and from my bed
looked far across the Strait to see
a small boat moving through the choppy water,
a single running light on. Remembered
my friend who used to shout
his dead wife’s name from the hilltops
around Perugia. Who set a plate
for her at his simple table long after
she was gone. And opened the windows
so she could have fresh air. Such display
I found embarrassing. So did his other
friends. I couldn’t see it.
Not until this morning.

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So much of my writing in the weeks & months after losing my grandfather was centered on trying to process that grief. Even though I spent quite a lot of time both thinking and writing about my grandfather, I never cried. Not once. After a while, that fact started to really worry me.
This is a post from my blog about how that was finally resolved:
🔗 https://jeffreyaward.wordpress.com/2022/12/17/grief-dreaming/
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Grief dreaming.

Sometimes I ramble.

This will be my third Christmas without my beloved grandfather, a loss that left a hero-sized hole in my life. After he passed in 2020 at the age of 97, I wrote the following as a bit of a eulogy, shared now in recognition of all of us who are approaching the holidays through the filter of grief.

My eulogy:
🔗 https://jeffreyaward.wordpress.com/2022/12/08/eulogy-man-and-a-boat/

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Me and my grandfather, Christmas 1972:

Eulogy: Man and a boat.

Sometimes I ramble.