So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:
- highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
- usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
- usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.
We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.
SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.
In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.
However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now
We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:
- run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
- with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
- with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
- with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
- where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.
Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.
So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans
And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞
Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭
If you read this far into our vent, thank you
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