"It is important to note that you cannot process trauma if you are still in an unsafe, traumatic environment. You need to establish physical safety to be able to work through the emotional impact. Once you are safe, you can start healing by seeking professional support, practicing self-compassion, and prioritizing your well-being."
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/fawning/

#fawning #trauma #healing #recovery #personalSafety #safety #selfCare #emotions #peace

Thank you @silverhuang for the link! I am looking it up!

@oisin
Unfortunately "fawning" is a thing and is not much handled (maybe because nobody is proud).

What is a bit known is “please and appease”, but it would assume some agency.
#Fawning is an offer of submission triggered by the recall of a past trauma.
To attempt safety, you detach from yourself and emotionally connect to your agressor.

If you've ever apologized to someone who has hurt you, you might have fawned.

‘Each person is […] bound by different moral commitments towards the aggressor – depending on the position held and the relationship with one or the other’.

‘In the extended family, friendship and professional circles within which incest is reported, some, now adults, have obviously themselves been victims of abuse, others have been or still are abusers. In the vast majority of cases, these incestuous acts, whether suffered or imposed, have not been reported to the courts or made public. These incestuous acts are also known to others, who talk about them, have talked about them or will talk about them in the future. Circles of acquaintance and gossip intersect.’

Léonore Le Caisne (fr) https://blogs.mediapart.fr/leonore-le-caisne/blog/130121/qu-est-ce-que-le-silence-de-l-inceste

#ethology #anthropology #LeCaisne #family #domesticViolence #parenthood #denial #incest #incestCulture #patriarchy #publicHealth #mentalHealth #domesticViolence #aggressions #acquaintance #taboo #community #attachment #fawning #silentiation #silentiate #invisibility #kinship