It's hard when architects think they agree on a system's design, but their mental models differ. @apaipi shares how asking everyone to draw the same monolith unveiled hidden misunderstandings, fostering crucial shared understanding and better architectural decisions.
#SoftwareArchitecture #Facilitation #DDD

Read, watch, or listen: https://virtualddd.com/facilitating-archdes/drawing-same-system-different-architectures/

Why Drawing the Same System Reveals Different Architectures

What happens when architects draw the same system and get different diagrams? Learn how externalising mental models transforms architecture discussions and reveals hidden disagreements.

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Listening Mistakes Costing You Trust, Deals and Influence | R. Mullender on Episode 69 of Thriving Minds with Alberto Zandi
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoOsP7CmUo0

#listening #negotiating #facilitation

Here's a guide to explicit communication mechanics that increase the likelihood that people receive and act on your messages at meetings.

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/event-design/2022/11/mechanics-of-explicit-communication-at-meetings

#facilitation #ExplicitCommunication #messaging #repetition #timing #presenting #assnchat

The other day, I realized that I experience good facilitative listening as meditation. It's a great practice to practice!

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/facilitation/2023/01/facilitation-listening-as-meditation

#facilitation #meditation #listening

Be cautious about working with someone who calls themselves a "human catalyst". Because we all need to be open to change.

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/facilitating-change/2014/09/a-caveat-on-working-with-human-catalysts

#FacilitatingChange #facilitation #catalyst #BeingOpenToChange

I'm a big fan of the "pair share" facilitation technique. Besides stimulating active engagement, we can use it for group work practice too!

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/event-design/2023/05/pair-share-group-work-practice

#facilitation #PairShare #GroupWork #practice #TheThreeQuestions #eventprofs #assnchat

“A well-known principle of human behavior says that when we ask someone to do us a favor we will be more successful if we provide a reason. People simply like to have reasons for what they do.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, 1984

#manipulation #persuasion #validation #influence #conversation #memory #neuroscience #campaigning #narratives #storyTelling #Psychology #socialPsych #socialPsychology #facilitation #Cialdini #book

One-on-one conversations can be sites where the more powerful party coerces the less powerful, sometimes through abusive behavior.

How does your organization protect its members against this dynamic?

#OrganizationalCommunication #organizing #coalition #facilitation

A Thanksgiving moment reminded me that, when working with people, the "bottom" of the group also needs support.

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/facilitation/2021/11/support-the-bottom

#facilitation #GroupWork #support #engagement