One of the several reasons that me & my immediate family are estranged from almost everyone, except for a few, from my patriarch extended family is because they'd become racist, bigoted, capitalistic jerkfaces.
The extended patriarch side of my family that we chose to be estranged from have hatred & hold shitass stereotypical views towards black, Indigenous & Latinos. They also are ignorant & cruel towards LGBTQ2S folks. That ain't OK with me, nor my immediate family. We don't share their asshat beliefs & before we cut off contact with them - I reamed them the fuck out.
I reminded them of their past war survivors history, their ancestral histories & how they're thinking & behaving like inhumane racist fuckers - when we arrived in Canada & how we all suffered racism assaults from white folks here for years. I told them that just because you're a yellow person who pretends to be white, you're still fucking yellow at end of day & you are abusing your own family & disrespecting all of our ancestors too. I told them that they raised selfish, greedy for money, ignorant kids - who don't give a fuck about anyone but themselves & those kids are going to fucking abandon them, when they get old, frail & need help to live. I told them - unlike your fucking self & your fucking selfish kids - I'd help them out, in their times of need - despite them not ever being there for me or my family, during our times of need. I told them - it's because my parents raised me well & my parents never sold their souls out for money, unlike them.
That is how I dealt with people in my own family who became inhumane towards others. No strangers get a free pass with me. You'd be a fucking fool to even try.
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Happy birthday to my estranged brother who disappeared 20 years ago
We haven’t forgotten you and think of you every day and would love to hear from you and have you back if you want and can
Know you’re out there
Happy birthday bro
Also, if you are one of the lucky ones with great families, it's worth keeping this in mind when talking with people whose life experiences are different:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202105/8-things-not-say-people-who-are-estranged-parent
@ElenaHung202 on twitter: "May this holiday weekend land gently for those with estranged family. And a reminder that chosen family is just as real and valid as blood family."
A reminder that it is also okay to be alone during the holidays; you can be a good person and still not have chosen/found family, or close enough friends to spend holidays with.
Be kind to yourself, you matter.
Think But logically
Ms. Que Banh
maitiú ó móráin 🇺🇦 🇪🇺
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