Zumbador(kind of a sub-toot, but in the context of my family drama rather than my mastodon drama)
If you have a someone who is about to die, there's no such thing as "too early" when it comes to planning for their death.
Invite the people who want to say goodbye early rather than late. If the person lives longer than you expected, all good, and they might get a chance to say goodbye twice. Don't wait till the person who is leaving has drifted so far away that you've lost that chance for connection.
Don't prevent people from talking about death and dying if that's what they need. People have the right to opt out but it's disrespectful to shut down that conversation for other people.
There is nothing wrong or weird about planning the funeral and memorial service while the person is still alive. The shock of grief does weird things to families and friends, and ideally you shouldn't be wrestling with funeral logistics while in that state.
Lisa J. Warner / Lisa Luv
