looking to self-host a #matrix server as a #discord replacement to migrate my friend group away from there now that the whole age verification catastrophe is happening.
is there a #conduwuit alternative that isn't uncomfortably sexualised and in-your-face about everything?
i guess i could use regular #conduit, but the docs warn about it being somewhat unstable compared to the former. #synapse seems to be insanely difficult to set up, and #dendrite looks like it has none of the strengths of the two others
i'd just use "conduwuit" but as a trans person it's making me genuinely super uncomfortable to see that kind of hypersexual fetishy trans 'representation' that they're going for. i just want a normal software project
