You ever notice how Thanksgiving conversations can turn into debates faster than you can pass the mashed potatoes?
It starts with a comment, maybe about politics, parenting, or pumpkin pie, and suddenly, people are talking ๐ข๐ต each other, not ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ each other.
The trick to shifting that dynamic:
๐จ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ.
Perception is your personal lens. It's the story ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ see and feel. The world filtered through ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ experiences.
But perspective? That's different.
That's the ability to step outside yourself and ask:
"๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ด๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต?"
"๐ช๐ต๐ ๐บ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐บ?"
Chris Voss calls this Tactical Empathy.
And it sounds like:
"It seems like this is really important to you."
"It feels like there's more going on beneath the surface."
So this Thanksgiving, if things get a little heated, try this:
No judgment. No counterattack.
It might just be the most generous thing you give all year.
๐๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ ๐ง๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ธ๐๐ด๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด, ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ๐ ๐ฆ
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Piotr Zagorowski
