If everything is your fault… you’re being played.

That’s not “communication issues.” That’s blame-shifting and gaslighting—designed to keep you apologizing while they avoid accountability.

If you’ve lived this, comment “I see it now” 👇

#SimplyJohnOne #Gaslighting #BlameShifting #ToxicRelationship #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
https://beacons.ai/simplyjohnone

One of the most demoralizing things at work is when management engages in blame-shifting activities.

Example: "The survey told us you dissatisfied with career advancement opportunities here, but (actually this is your fault because) you should be discussing your career goals with your manager & developing your skills so we can give you the raises & promotions you want." (As if we don't already do those things & are mad because you never deliver on your end.)

#BlameShifting #CareerDevelopment

Reading #relationship books written for “#normals” when your partner
has a #ClusterB #PersonalityDisorder is like reading a how to build a birdhouse
manual in order to learn how to swim safely with sharks.

In other words, it's not going to help.

A relationship with a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or Cluster B variety pack isn't dysfunctional and toxic due to the issues non-disordered people have in relationships. The problems aren't due to deficient #CommunicationSkills. Nor is because you don't "speak their #LoveLanguage." And it isn't because you're from Mars/Venus and they're from Uranus -- or whatever not take #responsibility-#BlameShifting-#DARVO bullshit excuse they concoct.

It's because they have an un/diagnosed personality disorder. Their love language is Crazy. They lack the fundamental emotional and psychological capacity to have a healthy and reciprocal emotionally mature relationship built upon mutual respect and empathy.

Furthermore, being more empathic, patient and "loving them harder" isn't going to help you either. That advice results in more #enabling, #codependence and #TraumaBonding -- not more love.

Again, the real issues are the #NPD, #BPD, #HPD character pathology, which can't be fixed. And your #codependency, #peoplepleasing, #traumahealing, etc., which you can work on.

If you want to learn how to have healthier relationships, read about how to best protect yourself from emotionally manipulative liars/predators and how to address your codependency and family of origin issues because nothing else is going to work.

#AbuseHasNoGender #TheMoreYouKnow

Oh, sure, blame the customer, even though it's the company that's refusing to pay you a livable wage so that you have to rely on tips!

#capitalism #blameshifting

https://www.dailydot.com/irl/doordasher-tipping-delivery-time-tiktok/

Die #PsycholgistsForFuture zum Thema #Blameshifting :
(Aus: https://twitter.com/Psychologists4F/status/1400098641247969281 )

„Die @fff benutzen ja selbst alle Handys und lassen sich von ihren Eltern im SUV zur Schule fahren“

Das ist #Blameshifting. Wie kommt denn sowas?

Blameshifting ist ein psychologischer Abwehrmechanismus.
Das eigene Erleben von Schuld und Scham wird unbewusst auf andere projiziert und dadurch beiseite geschoben.

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