Tina Okoli-AzzalarabWhy I Physically Can’t Keep a Secret
Hey y’all, it’s Tina. Pull up a chair, grab a snack, and maybe a glass of wine—because if you know me, you know I’ve got some things to say.
I saw this quote today that basically read my entire soul for filth: “One thing about me, if it’s on my chest ima GET IT OFFF OF MEE 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣.” When I tell you I felt that in my marrow? I mean it.
Some people are like vaults—cool, collected, and mysterious. Me? I’m more like a pressurized soda can that’s been rolling around in the trunk of a car for three hours. The second you crack that tab, it’s over. Everything is coming out, and it’s probably going to be a little sticky and chaotic.
The Reality of Having No “Poker Face”
You see, I wasn’t blessed with a “poker face.” My face is more like a 70-inch 4K LED billboard. If I’m annoyed, my left eyebrow is already halfway to my hairline. If I’m confused, I look like I’m trying to solve a calculus equation in a foreign language.
Why Keeping it “On My Chest” is a Struggle
But the real struggle is when I have an opinion or a story. Keeping something “on my chest” literally feels like I’m carrying a backpack full of bricks. I start getting restless. I start fidgeting.
I’ll be in the middle of a perfectly normal conversation about the weather, and my brain is screaming, “Tina, tell them about the lady at the grocery store who tried to use a 2014 coupon for organic kale. DO IT NOW.” And I try to fight it! I really do. I’ll tell myself, “Tina, be a professional. Be a lady of mystery.” Five minutes later? I’m leaning across the table saying, “Okay, but can we just talk about why Brenda brought potato salad with raisins to the potluck? Because I have thoughts, and they are heavy.”
Two Types of People: Internal vs. External Processors
I’ve realized there are two types of people in this world:
1. The “Internal Processors”
These people can sit with a Secret or a Grudge for decades. They’ll take it to the grave. They are the Zen masters of the world.
2. The “Tina Processors”
If I don’t say it out loud, I might actually combust. Words are like steam in a tea kettle for me. If I don’t let them out, the whistling just gets louder and louder until the neighbors start complaining.
The Freedom of Emptying the Tank
There’s a certain freedom in just… letting it fly. Is it always graceful? Absolutely not. Do I sometimes overshare? Listen, if you ask me how my day was, you’re getting the director’s cut, the behind-the-scenes footage, and a 15-minute commentary on why the barista definitely looked at me weird.
But at least when I lay my head down at night, my chest is light! I’ve emptied the tank! I know I’m not alone in this. I know some of you are reading this right now nodding your head because you’ve also been “that friend” who accidentally turned a “quick catch-up” into a three-hour therapy session.
We are the Truth-Tellers and Vibe-Checkers
We are the truth-tellers. The vibe-checkers. The people who can’t stand “elephant in the room” because we want to ride the elephant, talk to the elephant, and then tell everyone exactly what the elephant was wearing.
Life is Too Short to Feel Heavy
So, here is my promise to you: If it’s on my chest, you’re gonna hear about it. I don’t do “simmering.” I don’t do “passive-aggressive.” I do “Hey, can I tell you something?” followed by a 20-minute rant that usually ends with us both laughing until we cry.
Life is too short to walk around feeling heavy. If you’ve got something to say, get it off your chest! The air is better out here, I promise.
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