I could not get very far at all. I think, just accepted that alloromantics are completely different kind of neurotype and treat alloromance like another spec fic is fine, the issue is so much of the alloromantic-centric normality that has been force-fed to us since formative years really make the whole thing extra surreal. The expression "more than friends" easily makes aromantics think alloromantic feelings are a level up from platonic friendship, and somehow it's aromantics' fault for not being able to unlock the next level.

Except 99% of romance fictitions, and now There is No Ethan a non-fiction, really made it clear that alloromantics usually strongly dislike and disrespect the person they are attracted to. It's not just that "Ethan" is someone who clearly is a master manipulator in the sense of "he" is an asshole to all the women he catfished, but that the writer Anna herself clearly cannot stand "Ethan" as a fellow human being right from the beginning, and apparently that's the attraction? There are no extra levels to unlock into more than friends, these fuckers never deserved to be our friends to start with.

Like, I can't say with confidence that if I were allo I'd do this or that, because I can't imagine myself as allo. Based on what I know so far out of non-romantic relationships, if someone I just met who I had some mild positive feelings toward suddenly got all racist towards me, all the positive feelings would just evaporate right there and I'd want nothing to do with them. And seems like the writer isn't even a person with humiliation kink, it's just an allo thing of, "wow that's racist I hate how he behaves, I hope we are married in 3 months"

Um

Wha

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