Delving into some historical erotica reminded me of a refrain I hear sometimes: that we should use technical terms even in our smut. I think we should use the full nuance of the language.
As mentioned above, I agreed to allow D2D to take my erotica to the libraries systems this time because they made it sound like it would be ok. Though I've been wary of that and have not previously sent my erotica to the library systems.
Guess who just got a "we detected erotica in your erotica tagged book so we're not sending it to the libraries" email?
There's nothing I need to do unless I care to argue that the erotica I wrote as erotica and tagged as erotica is not, in fact, erotica.
Setting this public and tagging it to save anyone else the irritation.
Which is fine. I generally date people older than I am. I'll go a bit younger than I am today but not 20+ years younger. Not a value judgement. If it's not dating someone who 'just turned eighteen', the age gap by itself is mainly an issue when combined with extremely uneven power dynamics.