Also, how much shit do people get away with and are not held to genuine account because "they are family". I have taken crap from people in my non-chosen family I would never take from someone who isn’t (well mostly never, after years of unlearning) because, hey it's my [insert family member] and I have been socialised since young to embrace and know my [insert family member, especially immediate such as mum] no matter what. That's abusive, yet has a powerful hold over me. The individualistic, atomised and privatised construction of the family - whilst part of a wider fabric of state control and authority - is central to that abuse. It shouldn't come down to whether we are 'lucky enough' to have a 'supportive' family or whatever. And even if we are 'lucky enough', there are often demands put on people within families to meet societal expectations and demands reflecting and reinforcing inequalities and oppression - for instance, views around unpaid caring relating to patriarchy. A radical, collective and communal approach to care is what we need instead.
#AbolishTheFamily #AbolishTheState #AbolishMoney